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writes:Ok this is kind of complicated so please read through the whole thing. I'm 16 and have never been in a relationship before - I've never even been asked out so I'm really confused as to what I should do.Well there's a forum on the internet that I go to for people from local high schools and there's this guy on the forum that I really like. It turns out I had sat next to him at a seminar a couple of months ago and didn't actually know about it.When I realised I thought he was really cute was about a week ago when there was an activity for local high school students at a college and he was in my group for activities.I knew it was him, because he said in the forum that he was going and his first name (also his forum name) isn't exactly common. He posted about what activities he did in the forum afterwards so I knew it was definitely him.The whole day I couldn't stop sneaking glances at him, but I couldn't pluck up the courage to talk to him.From what he has posted on the forum it sounds like we are interested in similar things and have similar aspirations for the future so I think he would be nice to at least chat with sometimes.It's unlikely that I will see him by chance again so I want to do something about it, but I'm just way to shy to ask for his email or something.Can anybody help me with how I can get him to ask me for my email address or something?Thankyou.
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reader, JonHD  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Then might i suggest trying to concentrate more on talking to him in thread discussions. Though in truth it is hard to tell if he has indeed noticed you, it may seem as such since he isnt giving off any strong vibes towards you but it would not be unusual for him to be feeling the same thing as you are and afraid to act out of fear of rejection himself.Try just zoning in your conversations around him, not to extent of comming off like your constantly following him over threads but just enough to which you both can start talking abit more freeley, it will be hard to tell if he has formed something for you, unless he says so, which isnt a strong likelyhood since after all, he is a guy.But when you feel abit more comftable being open with him, spring the question in as i described before and this should be all it takes for you and him to start emailing each other.Take Care Jon
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): original poster here - thank you jon your advice is certainly helpful.
i didn't mention this initially - but i think the first half of the battle is even getting him to notice me. he has talked to me a couple of times but only in the context of thread discussion so i kind of need to get his attention to start with. any tips for this???
once this happens i think your suggestion would work really well. thank you.
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reader, JonHD +, writes (16 July 2007):
The biggest worry to everyone when trying to ask or be asked for an email, be it boy or girl, is fear and worry. There is nothing anybody can give to ensure he would ask for you email since after all we are unable to read his mind. However, i can say you can drop hints, such as "My email is playing up abit, does yours ever do that?" and take it from there.
I understand your hesitation for asking him, since i myself was always the shy type when it came to asking for a girls email or number. But if you do want to see where this intrest with him will lead then, while i know it shall make your heart pound and your stomach churn you will need to swollow all that fear and worry thats inside you and ask him.
Now i'm not saying say "Can i have your email?" since thats far too plain, effective usualy, but for your case pehaps something abit more tactful such as be talking about something, something thats on your mind or just being genraly random with him, tell a funny story that sort of thing and at the end say "oh btw, do you have an email? would make talking a WHOLE lot easier to haveing to keep checking back" or "Its hard to explain over forum can i just email you it?".
Many boys admire cofidence and courage in a girl, while i know those are proberly some of the hardest traits to master, for this instance if you can act confident bury that fear of asking you shall be rewarded. Trust me as young man that has been in same boat, ask the question in a joke and make is casual and you shall receive it.
Take Care
Jon
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