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writes:I have just had sex with my boyfriend's best friend. i really like my boyfriend and i know you are thinking that if i really like why did i sleep with the best friend? i only understand it now that i am in the situation. should i tell my boyfriend? but i know that i will lose him. the truth will come out either way so should i be the one to tell him? help me please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): hey hun, i think that if only you and your boyfriends best friend knows about it than you should both agree to not tell, that way your boyfriend cant get hurt and you will stay together. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): Don't worry about it. I've been shagging my boyfriend's best mate for a few months now, we can't help ourselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): OK, I'm going to take a different tact here. You say he is your boyfriend and you "really like him." Well, that doesn't sound like true love to me. And so you slept with his best friend. It sounds to me like you are young and still exploring the world. You're not ready for a commitment to your "boyfriend." You're playing the field and you know what? -- that's OK. But your boyfriend is simply that -- a boyfriend. He's not your soulmate. Don't tell him. Just realize that, yes, you have jeopardized this current relationship. Maybe it's not the right one for you. Keep your eyes open, girlfriend, and look around.
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (12 June 2007):
i agree with danielpew completely, you and his so called friend have conspired to betray him twice. hes lost a gf and a 'friend' in all this. the least you owe him is the respect to be honest
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): You can't expect forgiveness, especially since you cheated on him with the best friend. If you didn't want to lose him you wouldn't have done this. If you actually cared for him or loved him at all then you wouldn't have done this. This is a huge deal, you have to tell him!! He deserves to know. If he finds out later on down the road from somebody else, it wil be HELL!! To keep this secret would be disgusting!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Trust me, _never_ tell. It will only do harm to both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): What were you thinking? I would disown my best friend of 20 years if that happened...but you would get it a lot worse.Truth always comes out. Tell him and get both relationships over with so chaos can ensue. You and your current boyfriend don't belong together. Life goes on.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Maybe you like your boyfriend, but you certainly don't love him. Maybe your boyfriend thinks he has a friend, but he certainly doesn't. The man was betrayed twice, by his love and his friend. Is it only now that you and the "friend" understand it so? I don't think this will be easy on him.I don't know if you should tell your boyfriend about sleeping with his "friend". What do you expect from telling him? Forgiveness? I do think you should let the man go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Unfortunately you are going to have to tell him eventually. On one hand, you tell him and he has a chance of forgiving you, or on the other, you say nothing and he WILL leave you.Just be honest and admit your mistake and promise him that you will never do something like that again.Otherwise, he'll find out from somebody who will make YOU seem like a wh*re. Which certainly isn't true if you feel guilty about it.
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