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writes:I have insanely strong feelings for my history teacher. He's 28, im 16. Ever since the first day I saw him I've had this massive desire to be around him. I think a lot of it might be lust, but I dont know..some of the things I feel are deeper than that. I sincerely like his personality and the way he talks and his views on things. We have the same taste in music and he just seems like a genuine guy. We really havent talked that much considering school started not to long ago and im kind of quiet in class. There are little things that make me wonder if he likes me back..for example, in class one day we were reading out of our books and we had to rip a page out, and everyone did it and he said to me "Does that feel good (my name)?" I know he was just joking but he is a man and he had to know what he was doing. He always seems to walk by my other classes, he asks me about my family, and another time in class were were doing our work and I looked over at him and caught him staring at me and he quickly looking down and sighed. But the other day I went to the bathroom during one of my classes and its right by his room, well he was walking out of it and saw me coming and turned around and quickly went back to his room. Was he avoiding me for some reason? I mean I really havent done anything for him to think I like him, if anything just looking over at him during class but no more than the other girls. I dont know, do you think im imagining all of this or might he possibly feel something towards me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 My vote is on imagining. Well, more looking for the tiniest, most insignificant and irrelevant interactions with your teacher that could possibly reinforce your fantasy that he likes you in the way that you like him...
I'm sorry for the bluntness, but this question comes on the boards every single day and they read exactly like yours. Even if the girl describes her teachers behavior and it sounds like he could be interested... what would be the point? Just a simple ego boost? A secret affair with a guy who fits snugly under the title "pedophile"? Waiting a few years, putting your life on hold on the off chance that he may date you after you graduate?
Its a freakin' no win situation every time.
How bout you just tell yourself that you're his favorite, the teachers pet as it were. Teachers do have favorites, I certainly did.
Anyhoo, best of luck :)
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 the reason he avoids you is simple, he's your teacher.
he has to keep his distance, even if he feels something for you. its forbidden for a teacher to see one of his pupils as anything but a pupil. he's avoiding you because he has to, no-matter what he feels for you he could loose his job its is found out.
you have a crush on him and thats fine, its natural but it can go nowhere.
he may be the man of your dreams, but dreaming of him is as far as it can go.
don't try to take this further or you will get hurt.
i had a crush on one of my teachers when i was in high school, and i still think of her often.
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reader, Odds +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Your feelings are normal and natural. Women, particularly young teenage girls, are strongly attracted to men in authority. If he has a strong way of carrying himself, a deep voice, or even the slightest sign of being interested (ordinary polite behavior counts), that only adds to it.
Now for the bad news. "Natural" does not equal "good." The reason he avoided you is because he can probably tell how flirty you are being (trust me, he can tell, teenage girls haven't yet learned to hide it), and he understands that even suspicion of involvement between the two of you will end his career and get him jail time.
If he feels anything toward you, it is just the animal attraction to young, cute girls. There is no emotional attraction at all - in fact, there's probably a strong aversion ("jailbait" is not a good thing).
Your best bet is to forget about him, date someone closer to your age. Seeing him could be legal once you're 18, but that kind of temptation makes waiting difficult, and could make him legally vulnerable. Let it go.
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