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writes:I think I have HPV im just waiting on pathology to come back and confirm it. I only found out a week ago when i noticed a single small lump 'down there'. My sexual history is;2 people by 19(with protection),an 8 year monogamous relationship (we had both only been with two other person with protection and stopped using protection after a year), a 4 month relationship (protection used),a year of being sexually inactive..then my current bf.I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and so far im the only one who has any signs of things being wrong. He is a bit older than me but I trust he has always been careful. Apparantly the virus can live in the system for years before a flare up. I have been very stressed and run down lately so maybe thats why this has happened to me.My questions are....do you think it is likely that if I have it he has it too? Will we ever be able to have sex again?Do you think he will leave me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): My wife and I had been married for nearly 10 years and been together for 13 when she had a pap smear come back detecting cells that were dangerously close to cancer due to the HPV virus. I love my wife with all my heart and it would kill me to think that I could have passed this virus on to her (I've never been unfaithful and I don't believe she has strayed either). She only had 1 boyfriend before me but she was with him for four years and from what I can gather from her he used to sleep around on her so in my mind she has picked up this std from him. (though I have to accept that I could be the carrier as I didn't enter the relationship as a virgin either). My point is (though it has taken a while to get there lol) that if your bf loves you he will both accept that it could well have been him that passed the virus to you as well as acknowledge that even if you did get the virus from someone else that does not mean that you were unfaithful. If he doesn't then you're better off without him anyway. Either way if the test comes back positive you have to tell him.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 This statement from one of the articles might be particularly useful for you:
"If a partner has HPV, it does not necessarily mean they have had sex with someone else recently. The virus can lay dormant in the body for years without causing noticeable symptoms."
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 June 2009):
Other people have already said that it might not be HPV, and also that, if it is HPV, you may have got it years ago. Contrary to what some people believe, you do not need to have had many partners. One single lovemaking session is enough for infection, if the other person was infected at the time.
This is a good article for information:
http://www.medicinenet.com/genital_warts_in_women/article.htm
I understand that condoms are no real protection against HPV. So, even if your boyfriend was "careful", he might have been infected before, too. In the article I read (the link is above), the information is that it is estimated that 75% of people in reproductive age have contracted HPV at least once.
I think you should determine what it is that you have, first. Maybe it's not what you think.
I don't think you have the disease. If you do and he doesn't have the right information, he might think you cheated. This might be an useful link for that:
http://www.medicinenet.com/genital_warts_in_men_hpv_virus/article.htm
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): It's estimated that 50% of Americans have some form of HPV. No, this is not going to end your sex life and in fact should not even affect it, except that your BF should be tested for it also.
Not all forms of HPV cause symptoms and it's much rarer for guys to show symptoms if they do have it. Luckily for you, the kind of HPV that causes unsightly warts is NOT the kind that can cause you cancer somewhere down the road.
Are you using protection with your bf? Did he use protection with every partner before you? If the answer to either question is no, based on your sexual history you could very well have caught it from HIM. He could easily have HPV and be asymptomatic. Even one act of unprotected sex with one infected partner is enough, as with any STD, to transmit the disease.
I suggest you site down and have a talk with you bf but if he leaves you over this he is just plain shallow. After 9 months of sex with you, even if you had it first it's practically a given that both of you have it now. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): Hpv unfortuantly is very common and your right can live in the system for years. So you may have given it to him or vise versa. You will have to sit down and discuss it, you say that he is older so that is good in the fact that he will be more mature. Also you should know that a single small lump does not mean hpv.. it could mean ingrown hair, pimple.. sist..(is that how you spell that?) so--until the results come in there is not much you can do.
im sure you will be able to have sex again... and hpv is std so im pretty sure that he could be a carrier. also i do know that with certain forms of herpies stress can trigger an out break..so im not real sure if both things work like that.
the best you can do is wait for the results, and talk to your doctor about all options. for him and you.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): if he does leave you, then he was using you in the first place. and luckily, they have like medicine u take so that u can still ave sex and not pass it on.. and like sometimes its super hard to pass on to the guy youre having sexwith if theres no like signs.
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