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male
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51-59,
*onlehube
writes:I need some input from people out there. Here is my situation. I am married man, happy with all aspects of my marriage expect my wife and I have relations about once a year. Over the last year or so, I have been talking online to a friend who is female and also my sister in law. She is going on two years since she has had relations with her husband. Well here is my question, the other day we were talking on line. Something came up about rumors starting about us since we talk so much. I told her rumors stink, because they are just rumors and we are missing all the good stuff. She said "defiantly". We talked a little back and forth about how easy it would be to hook up. I made the comment, "You know if you were not my sister in law" She did not answer right away. I told her we probably are close to crossing a line we should not. She said "probably"We talked again the next day, did not mention this conversation and everything seemed ok. She has opened up to my in the past about how miserable her marriage is.I have thought about being with her for a long time now. I know it is not right, but I have a need to fill. With her I know things would be safe and she could keep the secret. Has the signal been given, there may be some mutual interest? The definatly comment makes me think she has considered the same. The probably comment makes me think, I may have went a little to far..for she was thinking we were just innocently goofing around. I am riding a line of uncertanty right now. Any thoughts, possible from a womens point of view.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 It sounds like she is interested, but also like you hesitant.
Have you spoken to your wife? Have you told her you are unhappy? Why are you only having sex once a year? Are you fulfilled emotionally? Sex isn't EVERYTHING in a relationship/marriuage but it does help...But you also need the emotional side of things fulfilled.
If your wife isn't bothered by any of this, and isn't willing to change to make you happy, then maybe you need to look at whether you have a long future together?
Your sister in law looks appealing to you because you're not getting what you need at home (not just the sex, but everything).
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Honestly! dont go there not only would you ruin your relationship with your wife but most probabaly the relationship between the sisters.
If you want to be with this woman you need to work out the reasons why. As far as i can see the only reason is sex to be blunt.
As you have posted in the under 40's i would assume that you are still quiet young at heart. Maybe speaking to your wife and letting her know that other than everything els been alright you are not happy with the once a year issue.
If you find that you just cant deal with it then leave your wife.
It is better to leave one relationship than destroy two.
Peaches
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Stop this nonsense with the sister and try and concentrate on your marriage. Relations once a YEAR with the wife? That looks like a really good place to start. Time for a nice long chat with your wife, you guys need to sort this out.
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