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writes: I have a gay friend who over the years we have got to know each other really well. I love his outlook and approach to life, his confidence; he is an interesting and intelligent person to be with and not to mention he has a great body. From the beginning I knew he is 100% gay and knew that any further attraction was impossible, if anything that made it more easy to get to know him without having to think that he was after something because we could never fall for each other, but now he is everything I want in a guy physically and emotionally. We have regular hugs and kisses (not intimate) as friends do, but I can’t control this urge I have to want more with him. After spending a day with him, I go home and masturbate away the sexual tension I have towards him. It’s strange because I would love to, but won’t take the chance, as it would ruin the great friendship that we have. I can’t continue like this because it feels like mental torture. My question is has anyone experience this, will or does it pass or how do you overcome it?
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 Maybe you need to begin to distance yourself from your friend. Gradually start spending less time with him - how often do you get together at present anyway?
You know for a fact that its not possible for your friendship to be a boyfriend-girlfriend one UNLESS he happens to be bi. Although it doesn't sound as though he is anything but completely gay from what you have said.
So what to do? You have to fully acknowledge and accept emotionally as well as intellectually that its never going to be anything more than friendship. You can help yourself in this acceptance by seeing less of him and starting to see what other men are around who might make not just great friends, but also romantic partners, in time.
I realize its not easy, but life goes on and attitudes and circumstances change.........
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reader, R1  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 Have you seen him with other men kissing etc? Watching him do that may help your brain/heart realise its just never going to happen. You will get over these feelings. He sounds like a great guy so I hope this doesn't spoil your friendship, one of my best friends is a very good looking lovely gay guy. I fancied him when we first met but now couldn't ever imagine him with a woman if would just be wrong!
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