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writes:Does he want to get to know me better?I basically asked this guy if he was "interested" in me. After I thought he was flirting with me. I think he was a little surprised by me asking such a blunt question. He smiled and at first asked what I meant but went on to answer. He said "I'm interested in your mind."While touching my forehead. I asked him to elaborate on it and he said it doesn't matter to him if its a friendship or courtship. He paused then said,"To be honest, yes I am interested..in your mind." I just really need help making sense of this. Did he say that because he wants to get to know me(or my mind) better before dating me?
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reader, daletom +, writes (28 January 2013):
What do you know of this guy's personality?
"janniepeg" could be right - a shy guy trying to let you know he's interested, without looking like he's coming on too strong, and not risking rejection.
He might be trying to appear intellectual, because he guesses that's the kind of guy you'd be interested in.
Or maybe he sees you as an intellectual person, and finds that interesting. (The idea that guys prefer a "dumb blonde" isn't true - the majority of us actually want a partner who is roughly our intellectual equal, or even a bit superior.)
He could be (somewhat clumsily) trying to tell you, in a nice gentlemanly way, that he sees you as an acquaintance and friend but can't imagine developing a romantic relationship with you.
In any case, he doesn't sound the least bit dangerous. Spend a little time with him and see where it goes. You may pick up some clues about what he meant.
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reader, R1  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 He's being very cryptic! I wouldn't take that as a no, he wasn't rejecting you. See how things go, a bit more flirting and you could be in there... Let me know lol
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 Dating is a process of knowing people, mind, body and spirit. He could be shy. It's his way of showing interest without being too eager for fear of rejection. When he says it doesn't matter if it is courtship or friendship, you have to keep it at his level that you don't care either. Unless he says he wants to date you exclusively then assume his interest isn't too strong as for now, and you are just nothing until he asks you out officially. What you do is continue to accept his interest but not assume there's more.
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