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writes:Dear all,I will try to be straight to it. So this is my story. I met my mentor about 4 yrs ago and we are still working together. From the onset, I felt, there was something special between us and because he is my typically my boss, I just enjoy the attention, the prompt e-mails that come with it. He lives in the UK, while he runs a project in the US where I work. I enjoy talking to him, and will find an excuse to e-mail him just about anything in the project.I told him many times how a great mentor he is to me, and that I truly appreciate it. he never replies directly but I get the feeling he loves the attention I give him, because if I take long(2 weeks) without writing he will write!. Even my local mentor who introduced me to him has noticed and said that we have a strong relationship.Recently, I was not happy about somethings in the project and decided quietly to leave, though I know he got to know. He flew into the country(I am not thinking for me) and practically begged me to stay. It was so nice opening up to him and decided to stay. The truth is he has not been sexually suggestive. He is married and a professor in his university.But I have a definite soft spot for him. What is this I feel for him; infatuation, obsession or love? And why? This man is 38 and I am 32.I hate to think I feel like this about my boss becuase I know he will never be my husband. Please help me understand my feelings and how I can get out of it. It has become so bad that I literally wait for his e-mails. Thanks.
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (31 March 2012):
I think it borders on the line of infatuation and obssession. Im sure he knows or has gotten the hint that you like him. You have to pull yourself away from him emotionally. Obviously u still have to work on the project with him. So lets focus on you. When you arent working do you have any hobbies? Friends that you go out with? Anyone else thats single that you are interested in? Things that dont involve your computer and increase the urge to email him? Try those things try not focus on him just focus on yourself. Only email him once a wk or so about the project give him an update unless you absolutly have to contact because something comes up with work but dont look for reasons to email him. Hope that helps. It maybe tough at first but if u put effort into it this should eventually fade.
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