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writes:hi,Hope you can help because i havent got a clue. I've been sinlge for the last three years and its all down to me. I get asked out on dates a lot but im just not interested; it feels like i hate men when i was speaking to my mom about she said im very anti men and she believes it down to my past relationship. I was with someone for 5 yrs; i was 14 and he was 20 and she thinks its screwed me up because i havent had a real serious relationship after this. Also my mom and dad had a bad divorce but i really dont think that is what causing me to feel this way as that is not serious and im 23. I haven't been hurt mentally or physically, she has told me to see a counsellor about it but i just wanted to see if anyone else feels like it or if i do need to see one about trusing men or something. It's not as if i dont like them but as soon as there interested i find a reason not to bother sorry its so long thanks for help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): as long as you are happy without a man in your life, there is no problem. you do not need a man. when you get to the point of wanting a man in your life, it will happen..you are young and carefree, get an education, find out who you are and you will be better able to make a good decision on who to spend your life with, no hurries!
I am in the same spot you are but I am 46.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Hi
I know what you mean. Im not dissimilar. And i havent been cheated on or physically hurt. It makes no sense does it. My folks divorced when i was 4, i dont remember my dad ever living with us, but we saw him every weekend, and he's on his way now as it happens with a card for my sons birthday. Im just not interested in relationships now. Have had a few and ALWAYS did the ending. Was with someone 9 yrs who i had 2 children with, but fell out of love with him. Had a couple of 2 year relationships since, but there ya go.
If you find out why you are like it let me know!
Hehe
C xxxx
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reader, kassie  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 hey gurl i know what you going through i have single for about 3 or 4 years and the longest relationship i have had was 2 weeks then i just turn to men for just sex no strings attached.now that i am older and wiser now i no longer do those things anymore i am in the mood to falling in love and have someone care about me as i do them.but when you feel like you want someone the same as mine you might change your mind for that date but be patient your time will come when you find that right guy.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Good post by eyeswideopen. I also think you're afraid of failing again. I think you're picky because you want to find the man without defects, and I'm afraid there isn't any.
In this site we hear a lot of awful stories. We never get to hear any about a man who absolutely rocked a girl's world. I'm sure there are fewer cases of this, but, believe me, you can find someone who will be right for you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2008):
 If you feel uncomfortable about this then by all means go see a counselor and have a chat about it. You are very young maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet. I hadn't met my husband at 23 but a year later there he was.
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