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writes:I also have a boyfriend and I'm trying everything I can to hide it from him because I'm too embarassed to tell him... I have been tested for every STD you can think of because I was wondering why I had this (swabs and blood tests)... I believe I have had the condition for about 5 years could be more. I scratch through the night which has made the hole of my vagina larger as well. I have tried creams, antibiotics, candida dieting and detoxing which helps but never cures it for good. When me and my partner first got together and we had sex without a condom I noticed he started scratching his balls and his penis went a little red could I have passed it onto him and if i did why hasn't he said anything? Is he scared of what I might say?? It's just all too much I can't handle it any-more I just want to have a normal life free of this candida bv thrush what ever it is called!!!!! Please help... I'm desperate...
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reader, beckstar +, writes (22 March 2009):
Bacteria and fungus exists in your body and vagina at all times in normal healthy women with no symptoms. Problems occur when you have an overgrowth of bad bacteria (as opposed to beneficial bacteria), or overgrowth of candida/thrush.Your first step is to have tests to determine whether you have BV or candida. Your GP/gyno will be able to do the tests. BV is caused by bacteria, thrush/candida is caused by fungus. These are different problems and treatment varies depending on what you have.If you have BV treatment may be as simple as some antibiotics to kill the bacteria. Keep in mind that antibiotics kill all bacteria - the BV bacteria AND the good bacteria naturally present in your vagina. This good bacteria helps to keeps thrush away.If you have candida, DO NOT take antibiotics, it will kill all the good bacteria and make your problem worse. You need good bacteria present as they fight candida. This is common knowledge, taking antibiotics can CAUSE thrush in the first place. If your doctor tries to prescribe you antibiotics for a candida problem, I recommend you find a different doctor. Do any reading on candida - any article at all, it will be written that antibiotics can cause thrush and do nothing to get rid of it.I have had chronic thrush, it used to come on with my period and disapear afterwards. I developed a resistance to the creams - they stopped working. If you haven't tried the creams you insert (you dont need a prescription if you talk to the pharmacist) then do try them because they can get rid of it, or at the very least bring relief to the horrible burning itchy feeling.I have found the candida diet helps, but the most important thing is to take REALLY high quality pro-biotics (this is basically the good bacteria I mentioned earlier), natural anti-fungal herbals, and a little wonder product called Cellfood I discovered which I fully believe has helped me like nothing else has. People often recommend Threelac (good probiotic), but I haven't tried it as I can't by it in my country. I haven't had thrush for a while, you can win!!You need to talk to your boyfriend - I know how it is embarrassing, but I find that sex aggravates thrush (I imagine it would aggravate BV too) and leaves me burning and painful. I often have to abstain when I have it - or at least during the worst of it. Because if you keep having sex when it hurts you will start to resent and dislike sex - its impossible to enjoy it. And if you keep pushing your bf away sexually because of pain he doesn't know about, this can create a rift - men connect on a sexual level and when constantly pushed away with no reason he will start to think you aren't attracted to him/love him. But knowing the reason why he will understand that its not about him.He may or may not get thrush from you, it is possible, and can be treated with some of the topical anti-thrush cream applied to the "head" of his penis. I am not sure if BV can be passed to men.Keep in mind men commonly scratch and readjust their balls - especially after sex. My bf always does it. The penis changes color when he is erect also, it goes much redder, it could just be that. Knowledge is your greatest weapon here.. get those tests and good luck to you!!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Be very careful about treatment with antibiotics. Strong antibiotics can often create or aggravate the problem rather than solve it.
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reader, anna*belle  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Hi, I know just what you're going through. I suffered from candida for half a year one year ago. It was painful and my doctor couldn't do anything because he couldn't diagnose it. What I did was go on a complete NO SUGAR diet. The candida yeast grows on sugar and of cause yeast, so keep away from bread and all kinds of sugar, except to keep your bloodsugar regular. Also I used GRAPEFRUIT SEED EXTRACT 15 drops in water 3 times a day, it helps to kill the yeast infection, it is really sour but just drink it. Also get an appointment at a gynaechologist, it could be something else than candida, maybe you're just tense? Later I also used pills called "Candida QuickCleanse" which I got from America, you can probably get other pills or tablets that does the same. If you're in pain keep your abdomen warm, I found it help, maybe you will too.
Wish you all the best
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (2 February 2009):
 You should see a doctor as soon as possible. How can you possibly know what you've got if you havn't been diagnosed?
Why were you not treated for BV in the past?
Bacterial vaginosis or candida is very common and easily treated with anti-biotics.
There is no need to suffer for 5 years!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 February 2009):
Candida, candidasis, vulviovaginal candidasis, or candida albicans, also known as thrush, is a stubborn yeast infection which is fungal. It is an imbalance in the body that often settles in the digestive system as well as the sexual organs, and it can be very difficult to overcome. Symptoms may include cold sores, mouth sores, a whitish coating on the tongue, vaginal itching, odor, discharge and possibly painful sex. It may also cause fatigue, confusion, memory loss and a number of other maladies. It can be sexually transmitted, but there are other possible causes.
If applicable, stop wearing pantyhose, or tight underwear, and keep your vaginal area as dry as possible. Do not douche. Some helpful agents include herbal probiotics, daily yogurt that contains the beneficial bacteria lactobacillis acidophillis, nystatin creams and mouth rinse. Doctors may also add antibiotic treatments, but few medical doctors are really knowledgeable about this. You should seek medical treatment, but don't forget the yogurt, which medical doctors may not mention because it is natural. Also go online and study extensively. Best wishes.
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reader, Basschick +, writes (2 February 2009):
 You probably need to go to your physician and get a prescription for some antibiotics and unfortunately, you're boyfriend will also have to see a doctor and go on an antibiotic before you're both cleared up with this stuff. It will only get worse if you leave it untreated. You may be embarrassed, but you're going to have to have a discussion with him about it so you can both get treated. Otherwise if you get the antibiotics, he'll just give it back to you as soon as you have sex again and you'll just keep passing it back and forth. One word of caution, don't try to "share" one prescription because you both need to be on a full dosage before it clears up. Best wishes.
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