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male
age
36-40,
*irlyjeet
writes:I’m a 23 year old guy with a very normal life. I have been quite lucky with a number of gals I have had in my life and I’m completely straight. But I have this great urge inside to wear sexy female dresses, and this started during my college days. I have been in a serious relationship with a very beautiful gal for three years now, and slowly I have told her that I want to wear her dresses sometimes. At first, she was confused but later she went along with it. We have had sex quite a few times when I’m in her clothes, her jeans, bra, panties whatever she may be wearing and I have her wear my pants or underwear.At first she thought this was a temporary thing that I would grow out of soon, but now after 2 years this urge is growing stronger and I really feel submissive in her presence. The problem is that as long as she does not dominate or tease me, I don’t get hard. I have to lick her toes or do something submissive in order to get an erection, and she is really annoyed with this now. She is seriously threatening me that if I don’t get over this, she’ll leave me very soon. Please, please suggest what I should do! I especially want input from the ladies as they’ll understand it better from her point of view.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 You've let this get out of hand a bit dude. See you brought this on her slowly and she was happy doing this occasionally at first because it made you happy. But in a way you've abused her willingness to please you to the point where she's fed up with the frequency of doing this for you.
This fetish of yours does not make her happy.
Sex is a two way street and one partners fetish should not be fulfilled at the discomfort of the other unless they're ok with it.
If you can't get hard, sorry, but that's not her problem, its yours. You're either going to have to compromise with her and maybe propose that she could do this for you once or twice a week. Then once or twice a week perhaps you could propose that you do things for her that SHE wants YOU to do.
If she won't compromise and you won't stop wearing her clothes then its pretty much game over. You could then look for a dominatrix online who would love making you her b****.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): There is certainly plenty of evidence out there for couples maintaining a happy and healthy relationship where the male is a transvestite, however, you have also required your girlfriend to:
1. wear your clothing, and
2. assume a dominant role.
If she is not happy to continue with this kind of sexual role-play then there's an end of it. You have no right to impose this on her.
If you want this very understanding young lady to remain your girlfriend you must seek out counselling. If you want to continue to dress in women's clothing and be dominated, you must be prepared to lose her.
The choice is yours.
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