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anonymous
writes:Hi, I'm 27 and have been with my husband for 7 years, married for 5 with a 3 year old child, my problem is that I don't like sex, I never have. I've always used sex as a tool to control my partners and now I fell that I'm missing out, I want to enjoy sex and eveything that comes with it. My husband doesn't have a clue that I feel like this and it's something that I can't tell him even though I do love and trust him 100%. I'll give anything a try - please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (25 April 2007):
I think that the best way to be satisfied is to know your own body intimately. This way, its possible to know the things that turn you on, and ensure that your husband can fulfil this. If you were to work this one out, it should also be much easier to talk to him about it, and could be approached with a line along the lines of 'I really like it when you do x'.....Also, I think you are coming round to the idea of thinking differently about sex already, as you say before it has previously been a weapon which I guess can subconsciously make it tough to change notions of it, and it might be a long process.
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reader, penta  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Can you have an orgasm? I mean at all, by yourself? This is where you should start -- getting to know what makes you feel good.
You'll eventually have to come clean to your husband, so that you can get his help.
Good luck.
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