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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:ive been with this guy for ten years. we broke up then got back together for three years and his ex gf is obssesed with him, posting things on facebook to get me thinking hes still involved with her and tryin to be exactly like me. i had to cut and dye my hair but that didnt work she did the same! i dont know what to do anymore, he says he hasnt talked to her since we got back together. what do i do? we are always arguing when she does stuff like this she tries to be innoncent when we say something to her
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): Hi. Just dont say anything to her. Shes doing it all for attention. Block her on FB and change your privacy settings so she cant snoop. Maybe their time together was over shadowed by your memory. It can happen in relationships when theres an ex still around....as you are finding out. She may feel that he was never really over you ect and its left her feeling slightly bitter that you are back together again. Attention is like oxygen to her right now. Cut off the supply (attention) and she will slowly vanish.
As long as you are sure your partner is having nothing to do with her, dont argue with him about her. Its what she wants. Just enjoy being back with him and stop worrying about his ex. Ex's clear off eventually. Sometimes leaving a lot of damage in their wake. Dont let her do that to you two x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): She obviously still has feelings for him. You could ask your boyfriend to have a serious word with her to show both you and her that he is serious about your relationship.
I also think facebook does more harm than good in some relationships. Why not just block this girl? Completely ignore her and her actions and she'll soon grow tired. But while she has the attention she's going to play up to it. If you delete her from your friends you can't see the rubbish she writes or the way she copies you. You can just go back to being happy with your boyfriend without worrying as you won't be seeing any of her rubbish!
She is currently getting the desired effect as you two argue, that will be what she wants to happen. You know he hasn't talked to her so just let it go. Leave her to her silly games and don't get involved.
Good Luck x
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