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writes: i really really like my boss. i'm 21 he's a lot older at 45 and married. we have fantastic chemistry, and being his second in command we have a lot of time together. nothings happened as yet, and although he's joked that i'm too young theres a spark there that i can't ignore. everytime i walk in a room and he's there it just feels natural that i should be going up to him and kissing and touching him. surely if there was nothing there i wouldn't feel like that. i am worried though, because i am very ambitious and wouldn't want any scandel to ruin my career, or his. i also have a member of staff who has been spreading rumors that i haven't got my job on my own merit, which is rubbish becos i work damn hard, and of course me and the boss don't like this, but i don't want the kid to ruin any chances i have with him.i'm confused what to do, especially with the xmas do coming up i'm hoping, yet worried we'll both get pissed and something will happen. please help me x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): I think your chemistry revolves around the fact that you work on projects together that interest you both so you always look forward to being around him because it makes you feel like you have some connection....take away this aspect, and you probably have nothing between you...you probably are pretty full of yourself being second in command so maybe your huge ego tells you that the rules don't apply to you and a little sex is just a job perk for you both. Hate to burst your bubble but just try taking this to a sexual level and you will see that the rules do apply to you, and you will end up with your butt on the street when his wife finds out because she will demand that he fire you....and he will believe it and he will hang it on your performance because after all he is the one who judges that as well
Use your brain, wise up and get over yourself, please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): Your rediculous! Have you had enough desency to think about the mans wife and what that would do to her if he went and slept with some horny little twit at work. Women no, I mean girls like you make me sick. HE IS A MARRIED MAN KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF!!!! I agree with the others, you are very immature and selfish. And you need to lose the fantasy brains that the two of you are some how meant to be together. That's crazy. All it is is lust. Whatever you do do just know that he will probably severely regret sleeping with you and you'll wind up getting hurt in the end.
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reader, fATTYNATTY +, writes (11 November 2006):
 i;d leave it., you're going to hurt too many people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): GROW UP AND STOP THINK OF YOURSELF!!!!!!!! All your worried about is how this could effect you if anyone found out. What about his wife, his children, his parents, think how they would feel. This has the potential to ruin many peoples lives. If he is a good husband then he should bring his wife to this party and have a good time with her. I don't know if there really is a spark between you two or if it's all in your head, but if you can't control yourself then i think you should cut of contact with this man and find yourself a new job. And remember your only 21 stop trying to act older and looking down on others. Refering to others as that KID they can't be much younger than you are. Thats probably the reason there spreading rumours about you maybe you should look at how you treat people if you want to go far in your career. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but i think you need to take a very long hard look at yourself and think if you want to be partly responsible for destroying a marriage and possibly a family. Goodluck and i hope you make the right decision for yourself as well as others.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (11 November 2006):
 I think you're very selfish and too young to know much. Some day I hope someone sheds some light on you about what is morally right and wrong. Everybody has urges. That's nature. Dogs have urges when they're in heat, we keep them in the house during those moments. You're not mature enough to realize what you're saying. Twenty years form now yo'll realize how simple the answer is. STAY out of the married guys life. He's NOT available.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): i think u should put a stop to this have u any idea the amount of damage your doing he has a wife and maybe some kids how do u think this will affect them have u giving this any thought how would u feel been married to a man giving him years of loveing to find out he cheeting on u with a wonen half his age i no because it happend to me after 23 years of marrige my husband aged 41walked out on me left me sitting here with 4 kids and told me he dont love me any moor he seeing a 20 year old girl he has a daughter the same age it broke her heart and the hearts of them all yes i set here every day crying my heart out its like a death and then he comes back looking to make love to me and then goes back to her it will never work out because 9 out of 10 men go back and then your heart will end up broke and the hearts of his family do yourself a favour get out before this happens he is only using u and he will dump u in the end so save yourself the pain and be strong you will find a man who will love u and it will be reall love not just for u for his wife and kids you will thank yourself in the end and remember u would not like your husband to do that to u so dont put another women through that
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): Find another job - if you think you can't control your urges - YOU have the choice whether or not to get drunk at the Christmas "do." This man is married and whether he fancies you or not, you have no business helping him betray his wife and family.
Use your common sense, woman!
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reader, helpful## +, writes (10 November 2006):
i would not be so worried about you career prospects you said he is married worry about that it is best to stay away from married men or women because if you dont you start destroying peoples lives if i were you and you cant get over the feelings you have for this man i would suggest looking for another job and someone that is single.
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