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male
age
30-35,
*ergiepunk
writes:I have a problem in my life when it comes to girls. I have so far faced constant rejection from girls. I had my first gf quite late at 14, and she ended up cheating on me with my mate the day after we got together. When I turned 16 I got another girlfriend I loved but she dumped me with the excuse that she didnt want a relationship at the momment. After that when it comes to girls I do the nicest things, my 2nd girlfriend who dumped me she got a new boyfriend who wasnt nice and didnt bother seein her, so I suprised her on valentines day and though she thought it was sweet she didnt want to be with me. Another girl I tried to be with everything was going ok and she said that she liked me but a better looking guy came along so she started dating him but he dumped her after he had sex with her, so once again I got the line you're sweet but ust not attractive enough. Recently I had my school prom I took a girl I always had a crush on as my date, at prom I asked her out and she said yes. But two days later I texted her asking if she wanted to go out this week and she said she only said yes to not hurt my feelings and that that Im a lovely guy but she doesnt like me that way. At the momment Im sick of this, I keep hearing how Im such a nice guy and yeah I do nice things but in the end Im always without a girlfriend, and yet assholes seem to get the girls. And Im so sick of this rut, I want things to change! Im at the point where I cant look at a couple without feeling jealous. I dont know what to do anymore.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (12 June 2007):
Welcome aboard the Goodship, "When it comes to girls" At any age neither you nor I are going to understand women. So what are you doing wrong with your girlfriends? Nothing. They all have a mind of their own. However us men too often want to be the puppeteer in the relationships. And in so doing we bust our butts to be Mr.Niceguy. Love grows out of a mutual commitment between two people, Love is't something that just comes along, like a bus. Yet, Look at it this way. If you miss one bus,gf,another one will come along. You do need to also think about just Plain-Jane. She may be short on the beauty, but she'll more than make up for it in brains and in a loving commitment .You have been picking loosers and it seems so have your gf's. P.S. You can't make things happen, but you can let the relationship happen. And do enjoy your singleness, it's kind of like loosing one's virginity once it's gone you can't get it back.
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