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writes:I am 20 and although I am single, I think I have a porn addiction. I have got the K9 web protection program seeing as that I couldn't reach a target of 1 week without porn (which lasted 1 day). Is there anything else I should to beat the addiction?More importantly will I be able to find real women (not ones in porn videos since they're unnatural) attractive again. I say this as I think my last relationship failed because of porn even though she knew nothing about it as she has never been on my computer.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Porn can cause real addictions. And it can seriously damage relationships, as well as your sexual response in general. Porn can become for some the 'crack' of sexual stimulation: something that a 'real' woman can't really compete with.
If you really think you might be addicted (and from what you've said it sounds possible) I suggest you talk to a councillor / therapist who knows about how to treat addiction.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (16 January 2008):
 How about a girlfriend? If your lat relationship failed because of the porn, even though she knew nothing about it, how do you know the next relationship won't work out? Or the one after that. My last relationship, I knew for a fact that my bf watched porn regularly, not because he wasn't satisfied but he put it as a guy think =] I don't know...whatever =] and I was fine wih it, I mean if I turned around and said I love shopping, that's a girl thing...so it works out in the end.
But what's this about not being able to find women attractive again? Email me or post back on this 'cos I don't get that. =] And soon!! I'm nebby....and it's a disease =] not my problem or fault =] honest x
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Watching porn seems harmless but once you realize that real women don't look like that or desire sex 24/7 you begin to choose porn over reality. That's when you know you have a problem. When you can't stop, and you're disappointed by the real thing. Which is probably another reason why so many women hate it when their men watch porn because they are being unfairly compared to surgically enhanced, sometimes computer-enhanced creatures that no real woman can compete with and that's unfair. It's good that you recognize this problem. That's the first step. You may need counseling with a good therapist, or a pastor to be truly delivered from your addiction. And once you find a wonderful girl, don't expect her to behave much like your porn queens. She may be adventurous, but there are limits in the real world. Try to be realistic and remember that the real thing is always better than the illusion.
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reader, Billie0013 +, writes (16 January 2008):
 It is not really unhealthy to enjoy looking at mild porn, the danger comes when you get into violent porn. Try to cut back on the more explicit and extreme stuff, block the sites on your browser as a help.
But, all in all, it is really only up to you - if you want to cut it back to the occasional tittillation then only you can do so.
Have you thought that it could well be the lack of physical, real world, sexual activities makes you turn to net porn? If you get out and find yourself some willing partners - and there's a lot around in the clubs and pubs - you will most likely find satisfaction.
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reader, massageismylife  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 i am also 20 and have watched some porn , but i think if you found a hobby or do other things on your spare time you could eventually find something or someone more important than porn! maybe instead of doing all your computer work at home go to a public place once or twice a week and do it there cause if there are ppl around i know i wouldnt want to be caught looking at porn. hope i made myself clear and good luck!!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 well other than seeking help if you think that this could be very serious, i suggest you get out more - not trying to sound mean!! do you have an active social life?? you need to get out and meet real women that offer real excitment and fun. how exactly did your last relationship end? you may think it was due to the porn, maybe it was something else. i dont know enough about your 'addiction' to tell you wat to do but i suggest you turn off your pc, give it to someone to keep for a while, and go out and try and enjoy yourself, if you find that this desire is preventing you from meeting new ppl and affecting other areas of your life, then maybe you should talk to someone, if you wanna talk to me more, email me! good luck hun xxx
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