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writes:ive got personality disorder and on the 25th of september my daughter got taken of me ive been to court but its looking slip that i will ever have my daughter back im gutted its so unfair they think that when my daughter gets abit older i wont manage her but i love her and am as good a mum to her as a mum can be what can i do plz help me[Moderator note: you may want to provide more information about your disorder and what happened to make you lose custody to get more meaningful advice] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): You need to stop saying things are unfair. You need to take responsibilty for your life and you have said you have a personality disorder. I don't think anybody questions that you love your daughter. You said you are as good a mum to her as her mum can be. What does that mean? If you have a personality disorder how good a mum can her mum (you) be? Face your problem (whatever it may be) and get it fixed. Nothing is ever totally lost. If you fix yourself, you're going to have a better chance of getting your child back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): The only thing that I can say is get more counseling. My mom had a personality disorder. It was either her way or the highway, or she let me do whatever I wanted. It was never in between. I myself then ended up with one and had to go to counseling for it. Personality disorders don't stay forever. I've heard they eventually wane with time, but yeah, counseling helps the best.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 If you are not under the care of a Mental Health Specialist,then you should start by getting help. Most places have community, or state run facilities. You will need to keep all appointments and do exactally what is told by the courts and your Doctor.
Whatever the ruling was, whereas you had your daughter removed from you custody, you must get all necessary help in order to even be considered having her returned to you. Parenting classes could be a valuable help if available in your area.
Learn everything you can about your disorder so it will enable you to cope better with your condition. Ask a lawyer to help you plead your case if you haven't done so. They will know what process to suggest to the courts on your behalf.
Perhaps you can find someone who is willing to let you and the child reside with them in order to give her a more stable home. (Mother, Father, Sister, Aunt, or another close relative or friend. They must be someone who can show a good report when they are checked out. Stability is a very important factor in raising a child along with the financial responsibility.
Strive to be the best Mom you can. Put the child frist! Do whatever it takes to show the courts that you want to raise your child in a stable home enviroment. Show them you are willing to follow whatever rules they give you without any reseveration. Perhaps even the child could have some type of conseling in order to help her understand and cope.
Whatever you do NEVER GIVE UP HOPE....and PRAY!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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