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writes:i have a gut instinct that my partner is cheating on me, but then i ask myself why would he cheat when i give him everything... i have sex with him everyday and i can tell i please him as he always wants sex with me, do any position he wants, give him oral whenever he wants, im also attractive, slim, have a great down to earth personality and am a loving girlfriend towards him, we always cuddle and kiss, tell one another we love eachother. would he cheat despite me doing all this? also if he was cheating, he wouldn't be intimate with me and still having sex with me would he?im only getting like this because he has started a new job which involves him working away just for training only. and i do have past trust issues. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): first of all you cant keep a man with sex..anyone can have sex you have to have something more to hold him to you...second your man is not cheating on you.relax an you probably have trust issues. and stop catering to his ass ... does he please you the way your pleasing him?? if not stop pleasing him as much never let a man have that much control over you because if you put in all this work for nothing youll feel dumb
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): You trust your bf as far as you can see him so yeah your trust issues are rearing their ugly head. He is going away and your mind is going into over-drive thinking that he will pounce on the first female he sets his eyes on. Without trust there really isnt a relationship cos you spend so much time pleasing him to keep hold of him because you dont trust him that you fail to enjoy the experience of being in a relationship. Also just because you give your bf sex every single day and do whatever he wants sexually that doesnt mean he wont cheat on you its not a guarantee. You seem to be giving your bf sex so often as a way of keeping him from straying this is not guaranteed either. If a man is going to cheat he will do so and still sleep with you as well. You seem to have a misguided view of relationships and think that pleasing a man sexually is the way to stop him from straying. A man knows when a woman is having sex with him because shes insecure or as a way to stop him cheating and why would he refuse. Men dont see relationships like women do. Sex is sex and it has nothing to do with love, this is what we women need to realise that sex and love is two different concepts to men and are not related. Seeing that youre doing everything to please him what about you? what do you get out of it? It seems like this relationship is all about holding onto your man, what about you? Sort out your trust issues and then you can relax in your relationship and enjoy it.
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reader, Christine82 +, writes (17 May 2010):
I think you are insecure tbh.
He probably would still have sex with you just not as often. You will notice changes with a cheat, e.g showering more often, less money, secret phone calls etc etc. I think you should forget your worries and enjoy what sounds like a lovely caring partner
good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 May 2010):
You don't know that he is cheating. You're not basing any of your feelings on any kind of proof. Unless you have any evidence, then the problem is your trust issues, which you need to address. Just because he is on training doesn't mean he's cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): Guys and women cheat for all sorts of reason, but mainly it's because they aren't getting their needs met at home, but there are some people that cheat that just because they can.
Answer to the question He wouldn't be intimate with me and still have sex with me would her? Yes he probably would.
I would normally say go with your gut but you don't seem to be basing it on anything, from what you say he has no reason to, and it you are feeling insecure because he is working away. You have PAST trust issues don't bring them with you to a new relationship.
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