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writes:Hay folks, got a little problem and I hear you the people to answer it.Me and my girlfriend are great, we laugh, we have fun, we spend time together, we have sex. Its amazing.But every now and then I find myself wondering what it would be like to have sex with a man (I'm bisexual, just for clarification). I would never leave my girlfriend for anything or anyone but its something I have always wanted to experience.She doesn't like the idea of threesomes or sharing and tbh neither do I.I guess my big question is, how do I shake this gay desire off me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2011): If you truly love the woman you are with you should know the answer. Fantasy is just that. You see the beautiful woman on the beach, but you dare not do anything for it will hurt the woman you love. Same would be true if you had a sexual encounter with a man. Find out if she would be willing to be your man. She just might, but don't cheat. You would not want her to do that to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): You need a man and if you are gay or bi then its not like you choose,it will choose you so be happy and dont worry.
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 I have a bi friend... who's getting MARRIED. Quite frankly I thought he was more GAY than straight even though he's professed to be more in the middle. Anyway, he brought up a point that I had not previously considered.
You have to be with someone who's comfortable with who YOU are in order for it to fully work. You can't suppress something that's essentially inherent in your nature... otherwise you'll just end up being unhappy - in the long run.
As it turns out my friend's fiance is bi as well... and she encourages him to have little flings with men and has stated that that she doesn't want stifle that side of him once they are married.
Even though you both aren't really into sharing... I think it will become a necessity in the long run. Otherwise, like I said, you'll just end up being miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Don't shake the feeling, it is there for curiosity sake. Seek and find someone you trust and fulfill the quest. I did along time ago and have been married a long time, but still enjoy a male buddy now and then. Just be careful.
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reader, DsuzaSam2  +, writes (30 January 2011):
Dude, love is everything in this whole world. If you love her, try to ignore all those gay guys. I know it's not easy being a bisexual, but you should have that much strenghth to control your sexual desire. If you feel an urge to have sex with a man, you should make a call to your girl or message her so that your mind will move away from that thing. By doing this you will be very close to your girl and your sex problem will be solved.
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reader, LizBeth +, writes (30 January 2011):
You can't really "shake off" your desire to have sex with a man any more than a straight guy could shake off a fantasy about a girl that isn't his girlfriend. You're just wondering what it would be like, you're not acting on it. Is this starting to interrupt your relationship with her? Are you having these fantasies while you're having sex with her? To me that one would indicate a potential problem. Otherwise, I don't think that it's anything to worry about. If the two of you break up (and I'm not saying you will) maybe your next relationship will be with a guy and you'll find out. Otherwise, try to relax and understand that your fantasies are normal.
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