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writes:HiI'm a 20 year old guy who has been in a serious relationship with a girl for 3 years. We don't get to see each other much because i'm at university.I have been having gay thoughts and desires since I first started puberty and watch mostly gay porn since then. I thought this would be a phase cos i've always been in relationships with girls. I enjoy sex with my girlfriend but I always feel like im missing something.About 8 years later this is clearly not a phase and I want to do something about it. I love my girlfriend though and this confuses me.I really want to experiment with a guy but I have no idea how to go about this and I don't want to hurt my girlfriend or family. I;m also quite shy.I always feel guilty about something after i've masturbated over gay porn, and say things to myself like i'll only watch straight porn after this and stop thinking of guys. I have many straight male friends and I don't ever find myself attracted to them.Am I gay? What shall I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2013): I kind of know where you are coming from. I was the same way, but never had sex with my girlfriends. One of my friends told me he was gay and that he met him at (a particular place). So i was curious and wanted to try dating a guy since I dated girls my whole life. And I ended up finding a really nice guy on there and we have been dating for about a month. It's hard for me to show affection like holding hands in public which i will have to get over but that feeling i didn't have with my girlfriends i feel with him. And with the family part, I've told most of them and some either had suspicion that i was gay or where ok with it just be honest. They are your family they will love you no matter what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2013): It may be hard to do but you should probably sit down and talk to her about it. You can't change who you are and if you pretend to be someone else you won't be happy. Keeping it a secret from her will only cause more damage than if you told her.Also some more advice to you would be to stay away from porn. Its damaging and addicting no matter how you look at it. It can give you guilty feelings afterwards whether it's gay or straight.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (13 March 2013):
Well, you should probably ask yourself if you still love your girl and still get turned on by her.You could actually have become bi-sexual.
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