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female
age
36-40,
*Unie
writes:Hi,I have been dating a guy for a couple of months and we have gotten close very quickly. I stay over his place everyday and spent all our free time together. He is caring, generous and sweet to me. The sex is great. We have yet to argue. He has met my parents and he's told his parents bout me (they are not in this country) Overall its a good relationship. There are a number of concerns though.1. He might be leaving the country in 6 months and I am not sure I want to follow him or have a long distance.2. I have a feeling that he is still very much hung up with the last gf because as sweet and great he is to me, he is very composed most of the time. There is no lingering looks, no passionate moments, no I miss you and sweet notes.So I asked him what he thinks about us and voiced out what I think. He said that he might not be very expressive due to the betrayal of his last gf. He insisted that he cares about me and he is serious about having me in his life. He also said that it is his job tht he needs to travel and move around a lot and he will not insist on me following him (that was practical as I have a career here,but it didnt make me feel better).So conclusively, I think that he might not care about me as much as I do about him and that is something I have not experienced before in a relationship and I do not know what I should do.There are 2 ways for me :1. Break up with him coz I do not think he is so much into me and I cant stand being number 2. I think it will hurt more if I broke up with him after spending more energy and time together. I have suggested that I move out but he was against it. (Im still keeping my apmt)2. Live with it and pretends that Im ok but that would be difficult coz Im not the kind who can keep things inside me.Please advise. Thanks.
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (7 February 2009):
 if you dont believe that the two of you can remain faithful to eachother and live with out eachother for 6 mounths then yes you should break it off, but as for the rest of your concerns, i think your probably overreacting.
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