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writes:I really want to go out wth a grl who is 17 and I am 27.She said she won't date men who are over 22,Another day she told me over 23 and another day over 25. Also, she said that if she dated me, her parents would disown her! She knows that I really like her, do you thik she would like to make it work or is she just scared of how her parents would react? Reply to this Question
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reader, culturelost  +, writes (2 April 2007):
I´ve been on her shoes before, as my first boyfriend was 10 years older than me (I was 18 and he was 28). My advise is doing what he didn´t do - if you really love her, try to get her parent´s confidence. In that age, girls are mostly afraid of going against their parents, expecially if they are still living with them. My ex-boyfriend didn´t get that and we broke up after one year because he said I wasn´t close to him (the truth is that my parents gave all opportunity to get to know him better, and he always scaped).
best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere's also another thing that I forgot to mention - she says she can't be with someoe over the age 0f 25 because they'll 'do her head in'. Is that the truth do you think is she just scared again because of her parents?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEven though I have told her my feelings verbally, should I write them down in a letter, email (I was going to say text but that's impersonal)? She knows how I feel, but it may concrete it
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Hi,
I got tricked into going out with a guy much younger than me, when I was 31. I met him in a club and seemed really nice, but quite obviously younger. When I asked him how old he was he told me 27. I went out the next day with him, for lunch, and kept looking at him and realised he had lied and was younger than that. So he admited he was in fact 24, and was very sorry he had lied. I thought long and hard about this, and although he was to young for me I really liked him, so we started to date.
It wasn't until my mates younger sister saw me with him, and told me he was in fact only 19, I nearly died of shock.
He begged me not to end it, and after being ridiculed by my mates, i decided to stay with him. We lasted 2 wonderfull years, and had great fun.
He ran off to join a circus one day and I have never seen him since.(this is honestly what the note said that he left me).
I still cant stop laughing when I think about it. I have no moral to this, just wanted to tell someone its possible.
Age really makes no difference, unless you wanted to date a girl under 16 then thats just so wrong.
Give her a bit of space then see what happens, XX
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reader, Reebe +, writes (29 March 2007):
 I don't think she wants to be with you, I'm sorry, but I think your reading too much into this. Step back and see if she actually tells you she likes you. Or just ask her straight if she wants to go on a date or something.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis question may seem obvious, but because she has changed the age gap three times, she likes me?
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (29 March 2007):
 She has changed the age gap three times, if this was the reason she would have said an age and stuck to it, it would not rise everytime, but in her case it has.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy would she change ages though; one time saying to me she wouldn't go out with anyone older than 22, another time anyone older than 23, and another time anyone older than 25?
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (28 March 2007):
If she didn't like you she would have let you know, she seems to be makinf excuses because she is scared of something whether it be her parents or the age gap, you need to talk to her and find out what her fears are....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDonna
It may seem an obvious queston,but why do you say it's obvious that she likes me?
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reader, Reebe +, writes (28 March 2007):
Hi
I think maybe she is scared of what her parents would say, but also I think this is a way of her saying she's not interested. At 17 a 27 year old would be quite a scary prospect and you will have totally different interests. She is probably flattered that an older man is interested in her, but that doesn't mean she wants to so anything.
I'm 28 and could not imagine being with an 18 year old.
I would probably try to stop thinking about this girl, unless she tells you other wise.
Good Luck!
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (28 March 2007):
Hi
You have to remember she is only 17, still at home with her parents, so yes, she is probably scared of what her parents may say...
You need to show her you are responsible, and if you meet her parents let them know you understand their fears re the age gap but your intentions are good.
I don't know if you have been sexually active or not, but if you haven't this may be a bit frightening for her as you are much older.
All I can say is try to undrstand she obviously likes you but has to consider many options so give her time if its meant to be it will happen,
Good luck'
Donna x
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