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writes: i need help to sleep with my sister but she says that she is complely by say that that stuff is gross when ever its mentioned. i feel like she just say that to convince her self. when we were little we would alwaly show eachother our privite parts and sometime when our mother wasnt home we would seek in to the closet and hump and kiss eachother.now that were older i really want to have sex with her. she 17 and im 18. she really beautiful but im afriad to talk toher about it cause i dont know if shell tell anyone about it.can some one tell me how to talk about it with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): That's sick and wrong, you need to get some help mate. She's your sister!! Yeah you did things like that in the past, but chances are she probably regrets it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I'm sorry... to all of the aunts defending incest, I think you're missing the bigger picture: SHE'S NOT INTERESTED. SHE SAID ITS GROSS. And it doesn't matter what justifications anyone wants to make for incest, the fact is it doesn't matter if the girl in question is his sister, cousin or perfect-frigging stranger, No means No. In fact, she said more than No, she said "Gross." Which means, "Ewww! Hell no... not now, not tomorrow, not ever."Gee whiz... the OP is going to have to just give up on this one. As I said in a post below: She doesn't want him. This is not all about him and what he wants. This is not a unilateral decision on his part. Find someone else, preferably out of his immediate family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Dont talk to her, as such. Let her know, subtley, how you feel, by doing nice things for her, and paying attention to her dressing, hair etc with compliments. If she is apprehensive, let it go. But if she welcomes it, then tell her at first, simply that you love her. Do it more often, and then if shes receptive, tell her how u feel.
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 I think we are all disgusted and grossed out by this because never in a million years we would ever think of sleeping with our brothers/sisters. It's taboo and wrong on so many levels. However, I read an article about how a woman had a physical realtionship with her brother and she talked about how beautiful/wonderful it was. That no one will ever understand how they feel for one another.
Let's pretend for one second that we live in a society that accepted this behavior. Then what? First, I would go back to why you are feeling this way about your sister. Is it because you love her so much and it crossed over where you are jealous of other guys loving and looking at her? whatever the reason, she already told you that it is gross. So stop trying to change her mind to get your needs and desire satisfied.
you need to leave her alone. Even if she wasn't your sister, think of her as a girl that doesn't want you.
You think she does cause of what happen when you were little, but honestly, i think she didn't know any better, and you might have manipulated her to get what you want.
I think you need to go to counseling to work on your issues. There are a million of beautiful girls out there that aren't related to you. why in the world would you want to do it with our sister?
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reader, femalecupid00 +, writes (17 February 2009):
yes as a kid is common to experiment but TO ACUALLY GROW UP WANTING YOUR SISTER IS SICK INDEED. you have to stop these thoughts your 18 and shes 17 you could get in serious trouble. she obviously has realized it was wrong and it meant nothing to her. your mom would be royally pissed. YOU NEED HELP!LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Hopefully she doesn't wanna do it with you again and thinks it's gross, you're not gonna be able to convince her. I think a better thing to do is to ask her to fix you up with one of her sexy friends or if she knows any girls who think you are cute or hot. Then ask them out and you'll forget about your sister, especially if the other girl is hotter than she is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Ignoring the fact that she's your sister for just a moment and we'll pretend she's just a friend, the fact of the matter is, she just doesn't want you that way. Irregardless of the morality of the issue, any attempt you continue to make to sleep with her will only make her see you as some nutjob sicko and she'll feel harassed and in the end, you'll lose her as a sister, since she'll want nothing to do with you. If my brother said that to me, I would cut off all commucation with him and would make sure to never be where he is, ever again. Is getting some tail worth losing your sister over?
No means no. You cannot talk, beg or cajole her (or any woman for that matter) into having sex with you when we don't want to. Period. Its not just about what you want. She doesn't want you. Let it go. She thinks its gross. If you love her, you will respect her wishes and stop thinking with your dick and stop thinking like a 2 year old with your "I want I want I want." Its not about what you want.
So, you're just going to have to be like the rest of us and expand your dating pool outside of your family. Oh yeah, btw, it IS gross. And illegal. And all of the stuff the other aunts (except the person below me) said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Wow, I am disgusted with the responses given by ALL of the people whom have responded here.
I laugh at that whole immorality thing that all of you have brought up. On top of that, I'm (not) surprised that the usual Christian has given her response on how wrong this is. Adam and Eve are hardly not-blood related. [laughs]
ANYWAY, to OP: Unfortunately, as you can see, there are a lot of people in this world who reject the idea of incest. Personally, I would not practice it. It has been burned into my psyche since birth that it's not a welcomed practice.
When people think about incest, for some reason, they think about making babies. When they think about marriage, they think about the Christian faith. It's weird isn't it? It's like nothing else exists beyond those two limiting factors. Where is Stina? Ah, too bad she's not around anymore.
Umm, right. However, as with most responses here, incest is not supported in most places around the world. It is considered illegal. The thing is, it's not even just that. Your sister has made it clear that she doesn't want to do that with you. I would respect her wishes if I was in your shoes. Don't even try to manipulate her to satisfy your own libido.
Objectively, incest by itself is not wrong. Those who say it is wrong are biased and are probably brought up with religious backgrounds. Even if they are not, there is a broad underlying societal standard in how this works. If you feel you can go against common society, then do it, but only if your sister is also up for it. Like I said, don't even try to manipulate her into anything. If she has said no, then leave it and don't bother her again.
If you try anything beyond that, then not only you will be shunned by common society, but you will be putting your sister into danger of the most common view of that common society.
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reader, BabygurlVa2090 +, writes (16 February 2009):
 i'm sorry but you need help and deliverance from god himself this is incest thats nasty. you need help..you should be protecting your sister not abusing her i'm sorry but its just nasty
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): dont tell her whatsoever. i would be SO freaked if my brother told me he wanted to have sex with me. youll scar her for life and itll ruin your relationship forever. as for your experiences when you guys were children, it is more common than people think but then again you guys were young and didn't know what you were doing all you knew is that it felt good. but youre older now and know better, talk to a professional but whatever you do don't tell her, things will never be the same
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 There's nothing wrong with being gay/lesbian, and I think gays should enjoy the right to marry, but incest is wrong.
When you have sexual relations with a relative, you risk pregnancy and babies born to parents who are related are at risk for a plethora of genetic problems, some of them severe. In other words, an innocent child is going to suffer as a result of incest. It's just not right.
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (16 February 2009):
what you are suggesting is wrong, you need to accept that what went on as children was innoccent, Now you know its wrong. Love your sister from afar as a brother. Get out and find someone free and not related to share your love and sex life with
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): ok this is wrong on so many levels BUT given your sister has moved on I don't think any harm will come of it. for you to seek closure just simply say to your sister 'i've got something serious to say to you - i really like you & I don't feel we're as close as we once were, can we spend some more time together to get that connection back'. take it slowly & you'll find out if she's into you, by her reaction. it's no bigee if things don't work out, at least you'll be close to your sis (don't lunge for her or force it)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): What you and your sister did as kids is more common than people will admit. It's one of those things that many will say oooh gross, that's just wrong, who would do that? Meanwhile, many of those people have done it themselves!
I'm not saying that what you are up to is common everyday, but it is more common than many think.
It's just not something that is socially acceptable!
As for it being morally wrong, that's an individuals decision. Look at homosexuality, for centuries people were killed for such activity. In some parts of the world, they still are. Now, gays and lesbians are getting married, or at least living in the open with rights. I highly doubt that incest will ever become socially acceptable, but you get my point.
As I was stumbling around on the internet when I found this site, on another occasion I stumbled upon a site that discussed the subject that you bring up. There is more of that going on than people choose to acknowledge.
Brother& sister, cousins, father & daughter, mother & son.
Don't believe me, google it. There are forums and stories enough to keep you reading for months.
As a kid, I had experiences with my sisters and cousins. As we grew up, it never happened again. I have one sister who is the type that I mentioned in the beginning. If that topic comes up, she gets all self righteous and goes off on a tangent of "oh that's disgusting, I never did anything like that". I just look at her and smile, and she gets pissed. While my other sister, we have our inside jokes that no one else knows about. We don't do anything anymore, but between the two of us, we have fun with it!
Our first time was in a shed in the back yard of a house we lived in for only a couple of years. That's been 35+ years ago. A few years back, we were at a family dinner, and the subject of that house came up. She said" I drove by there a few months ago." She looked at me and said, "you know, that little shed is still in the back yard". While everyone wondered why the shed held such a memory, we just laughed it off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I would just keep as far away from her as possible, there is nothing right about having sex/showing your 'private parts' to your sister. You need to keep away from each other, it is completely and utterly wrong to try to get her to sleep with you.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (15 February 2009):
whoa!
incest is very sick and very wrong! you need professional help, not help getting your sister into bed! you could go to prison for sleeping with your sister. when you were younger you probably didn;t understand the feelings you had. most little kids show eachother their bodies, especially when they are very young. it's all part of learning about eachother. but they don't go on to want to have sex with eachother when they are older. that's so wrong!
you need help! stay away from your sister!
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reader, anoms +, writes (15 February 2009):
 i dont have any brothers or sisters so i cant approach this questian like others but i bet your fantasy is shared with alot of men and women, im sure its only because its very wrong that it becomes a temptation, i find that the only people who give ther honest opinions on the subject of attraction to relatives and family members will only do so in complete anonymity. i have personally had two female cousins come onto me unprovoced, nothing happened but i was very startled, so maybe it is common, gudluk.
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (15 February 2009):
 okay bro, i know you have some ragging hormones and are sexually ettracted to her but that is sick!!!! it's your sister..(and you guys used to kiss and hump when you were little, thats disgusting bro) you could go to jail and what you're doing can sychologicaly hurt you and/or your sister in your future relationships...
put this crap in the past bro(she's your sister!!!1) its wrong!! im sure someday you'll find the right grl if you just look and stop thinking about your sister
gudd luck man and keep us posted
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reader, blahhh +, writes (15 February 2009):
yea dont talk to her about it at all. it's illegal to have sex with family members for a reason. when youre young that kind of stuff is normal but at your age you probably need to seek help in the form of counseling.
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