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writes:I am a 16 year old girl and I have a crush on my teacher. That would be fine if it was a man, but it isn't. She's a very hot woman I just have to be around. I need help to get her out of my mind. What can I do? If my parents found out they'd shoot me. I can't like another female. Can I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): Fancying a female teacher doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or even bi. During adolescence, your body is hormone city, and if you meet someone of the same sex who's a really great person, like a friend (or in this case teacher), it's very easy for the feelings of admiration you have for her, and your natural state of horniness (lol) to get mixed up together. So it could just be that you really like her, and your body is playing tricks on your mind. On the other hand, you could be into girls/women in general, and this is just the first time it has manifested itself. In which case, there's not a lot you can do about it; if you deny your feelings for your own kind, you'll just end up miserable.But bear in mind, you'll put the teacher in a horrible position if you proposition her (and just because you like her, doesn't mean she likes you in the same way). If you care about her, would you really want her to be accused of being a paedophile? Of course not. Who knows, if you still like her when you're 18 and leave school, you might have a chance (if she's into girls, that is).
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reader, Lovebunny  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Yes u can like another female. you are either a lesbian or bisexual(attracted to both boys and girls) or it could be a phase this is common among teenagers and even among some adults. as for ur partents ,it can be scary feeling like they wouldnt't accept you. U don't have to tell them about ur feelings for this women. give ur self a few years to know what u are for sure and then figure out wither u want to till them or wither u rather never till them. If u plans on having girlfriend one day then u probley have to till them one day that u have these kind of feelings for girls cause if not it will be hard on you and her(girlfreind). Most parents after a while eccept's that there son or daughter is not straight. I hope every thing works out for you. u should find some one to talk to like may be ur school cansller (sorry for the spelling error) I did when i was in high school,and she was very nice about it. or u could see a psychiatrist about it but they will need your parents aprovel though in order for you to be able to chat with him or her alone cause ur still in school in other words your to young to chat with him or her alone. tip don't tell him or her that ur so stressed over ur problem that ur thinking about ending ur life because he or she can't keep that to him or her self and will probley till ur parents and he or she might include why your feeling this way and u will feel much worst or may be it would be ok to incude it, i don't know.Good luck ,and take care
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reader, natalie-ann  +, writes (26 June 2007):
i just found out about my sexuality, its nothing to worry about, i fancied my teachers and thought of making a play but didnt, dont let it get to you, yes enjoy your fantasys etc, but jus keep it in your head that it wont happen becuase its against the law. im sure you feel unsure about ur sexuality, so i would personally kiss another girl and see what it feels like then you will no. Ever heard the saying dont knock it till youve tryed it? but honestly dont worry about anything its normal behaviour... Natalie-Ann
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (26 June 2007):
 You can like other females. I never felt attracted to a female teacher, but I felt attracted to female celebs in my teens. It's a completely normal thing to go through, as strange as that sounds.
As Penta says do not act on the attraction.
You may find in a few months the attraction subsides and you'll wonder what the hell was going on.
xxxxxxx
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reader, penta +, writes (26 June 2007):
 For one thing, do not act on this crush under any circumstances, regardless of the gender of the teacher. You are a student, and a relationship with a student would END the career of any teacher. If you care for her, don't put her at this risk.
As for the same-sex attraction, why is this a problem? You could be bi, bi-curious, or gay. You could also be straight with an attraction to this one woman. Orientation isn't an on/off thing, it's a bell curve, with people all along the curve.
Have fun with your fantasy, DON'T act on it, and pay attention to which people your own age you're attracted to. You'll sort it out. If it turns out you're gay, it's not the end of the world. About 10 percent of the population is, and many of them are very happy with it.
Good luck hon.
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