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writes:I am needing some words of support here. I just ended a relationship and have decided that no contact is the way to go. It is early days after the break up and I am still tempted to send an email or call. I have a challenging career and good friends but am still feeling that old heartache. Just wondering if anyone has had experiences with this and any tips to get through this kind of sensitive time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mumble  +, writes (26 June 2007):
I am going through exactly the same now only my ex-partner hasn't got anybody else. I have felt the same feelings that you are now and I didn't contact him but there was always that doubt as to whether I'd done the right thing but I really knew the relationship wasn't going to work out even if we tried again. That was 4 months ago and he still contacts me and keeps wanting to try and work things out but I do think once you've really decided, there is no going back. You didn't say how long you were together but if he had or has someone else, would you trust him anyway if you were tempted to try again? Keep busy is my advice - if you know it was the right decision, stick with it. Take care. x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 June 2007):
 I have been through the same experience resently, and from my experience no contact is definately the best way forward it is much easier to get through it if you are not having any contact especially if you have a good support network of friends around you and a good job that will all keep your mind off him.
Give yourself time it is definately a healer.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ended it because he had someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ended it because he had someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): "I just ended a relationship and have decided that no contact is the way to go" sounds determined. Can you tell us why it ended?
If it was on strong, justified reasons, like insoluble incompatibility of any kind, and you know turning back will only work out for limited time, then don't return. Think the separation will be imminent still and even harder than the first time. Yes, I've known cases like this. And the best thing is to find distraction from your feeling because you will eventually have moved on. I'd meet my friends more often, if I were you, and anchor to their support.
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