A
female
age
51-59,
*milynk
writes:So I have a crush on a married parent who's child goes to the same school as mine. I am happily married (9yrs) to a wonderful and good looking guy who has changed for the better ever since we got married so this intense crush is kind of strange to me and this is the first time this has ever happened. I cannot stop thinking about this guy and another funny thing is, everytime he comes to drop off his child he is always with his wife but that has not stopped my wacky brain from having intimate thoughts about him and I mean intense thoughts. The first time I saw this guy, I thought he was just good lookign and I forgot about him, and then one day, bam! like there was a switch that got turned on in my brain and I can't turn it off. I know I will not act on this but truth be told if I was single I would not want to be stuck in an elevator alone with this guy, in my mind he's just too hot. Am I the only one to have this kind of crush, I've been looking on the internet and have seen all kinds of crushes but not this one.Is there anyone who has ever experienced this, and if you are a married dad how would you feel if you found out one of the moms has an intense crush on you.
View related questions:
crush, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, freeme +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Anonymous,Would you consider creating an account and find me on this site, so we can compare notes? Emilynk, Will you say something to him? Or will you let it go?
A
female
reader, angelDlite  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 yes the lack of appreciation, weight loss and renewed confidence in your appearance, plus attention from other men is the perfect cocktail for extra-marital fun/trouble!
your relationship sounds like it is in trouble now. decide if you want to still be with your husband or not and if you decide that you still do and want your marriage to work, you need to reign in these other feelings before you do something you regret
x
...............................
A
female
reader, emilynk +, writes (8 June 2011):
emilynk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your responses. It just brings me comfort to know that at least I'm not the only one. It's funny because for me I feel like if I were to know that the guy feels the same way it will make me feel better and be able to control my feelings especially if I put everything out in the open with him. I do not have the courage to tell him.
As for my marriage, all is well really except lack of appreciation from hubby which may be what is lacking. Another thing, I have recently lost weight (4 years in the making since my baby was born) and now I feel good about myself perhaps I feel sexy enough to be attracted to someone else, ha ha. And in an interesting twist, one of my crushe's friends greeted me the other for the first time ever and that was the day I was dressed really nicely and some stranger guy asked me for my number, on that same day! Go figure! Just thought I would share this last part.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): I am in this position right now. I have an intense crush on a married dad at my son's school and I am a married mom. The physical attraction is like nothing I have ever felt before. I feel it is mutual. I have gone so far as to ask him out and he said yes. I really want something to happen between us but I am torn because I know that it is not appropriate what is going on. I have an angel and a devil sitting on opposite shoulders and each has its own voice. Do it! Don't do it! Go for it! Stop right now, what the hell are you thinking? I have these strong feelings I just can't seem to shake and feel I need to act on them. Maybe this is a train wreck waiting to happen, I don't know. But I just can't let this die. I think he feels exactly the same way.
...............................
A
male
reader, freeme +, writes (5 June 2011):
Have I experienced this? Almost exactly this. And I have yet to recover from it. In fact I come to this site as therapy for myself. Giving my 2 cents to others helps me process what has happened to me. It has been devastating to me. My advice to you is to find out why you are crushing on this guy so hard. Are you happily married? If not, can you fix it? I would not say anything to the guy unless and until you are both single. I completely understand the 'switch' analogy. I have yet to figure out if it can be switched off. Good Luck to you.
...............................
A
female
reader, angelDlite +, writes (5 June 2011):
he is just a fantasy figure that is all. just coz he is good looking, he may not have a great personality, he might be crap in bed, he might have bad breath if you get up close to him!
i used to fancy one of the dads at my sons football club, and i mean fancy BIG TIME but it was really only because i was not happy and a bit bored with my (now ex) partner at the time.
you're married, the other kids dad is married so just keep him as your little fantasy that makes the school run less boring, it really is not worth acting on and breaking up 2 families.
concentrate on getting the spark back with your husband coz it sounds as though something is lacking if you are lusting after another man
x
...............................
|
