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writes: I'm 14 years old and in 8th grade and have a big problem. My brother who is a freshman in highschool had two of his friends over last night. I really like one of them but I don't know if he likes me back. I'm too shy to ask if he likes me, but the even bigger problem is that my brother would kill both of us if we went out, or kissed. My last boyfriend tried pressuring me into making out with him and my brother nearly killed him, he broke his arm and beat him up, I really like him but don't know what to do. I need help please
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I had the same problem and me and my brothers best friend went behind my brothers back and had a thing but it never worked out because we both felt bad for my brother, although we still have feelings for eachother it is not worth loosing the relationship with your brother for a boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): get to know the guy better and if you really like the guy and find him decent and genuine, why not? in this situation, it's important to just be yourself around him and dont try and pretend to be anyone else or he really will end up thinking of you as his friend's little sister. As for your brother, I think that in a way it's better because he's more likely to be less aggressive and more inclined to see his friend's view here, therefore hopefully more tolerant, providing he's a nice guy-also listen to what your brother thinks about him as he knows what his friend's like. So just be happy that you've got a big brother looking out for you it'll all work out! x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Your brother may not act the same way because it is his bud and knowing him is different from your last b/f.So get to know your brother's friend first .Worry about that later. He won't treat his friend badly.
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reader, HappySmiles  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Hes jus over protected, But he is probably worried about you. maybe you should jus listen to you brother until he cools off, or when he thinks your ready =].
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Hi,
Older brothers are always protective (it's in their job description). As much as you like this lad maybe you should just admire from afar until he show's a sign of being interested. If he does show an interest then make sure you take it slow. It's not all about making out or going any further than that. Enjoy eachother's company. Too many young people today either force themselves into things they're not ready to do or feel pressure and do things they dont want to do. Take it one step at a time and then tell your brother.
Hope my advice helps.
Take care.
Adam xx
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reader, just-ask-xx  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 Aww, your brother is just protective of you, you're his little baby sister and he wants what's best for you.
It's funny, because right now I'm really tired and I'm going to bed after this and I was looking for one to reply to and yours, it was like, omg that's exactly me!
When I was 14 I liked my brothers best friend and I knew I couldn't lie (if I gt him as a bf) to my broher like I had with my previous bfs. I told Brad I liked him and he said he was shocked because he liked me for ages but was scared of telling my older bother (who's two years older) before anything happened, we went to my brother and we asked him what he thought, we told him that we really liked eachother and wanted to start dating. My brother got quite mad and he and Brad had an argument, Brad told him that he wasn't going to use me and he genuinely had feelings for me. After about a week or so, they were best friends again =] Men. Typical. =]
What I would suggest is, valentines day is coming up so why not send him a card, then maybe afterwards tell him how you feel.
If you two like eachother, tell your brother, he'll respect you and the boy for coming to him first.
Hope this helps!! Reply, I wanna know how everything turns out! ;]
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (26 January 2008):
 well of course your brother would want to beat him up your his little sister and he feels like he has to protect you, but also you will need your personal life aswell so have a chat with him tell him your not doing any harm just talking to boys kissing an cuddling nothing else and have him to give you a little more respect and be able to trust you...
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