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*ujuBearLovesPierre
writes:I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm having bi / lesbain thoughts I'm scared I have an amazing boyfriend I love him I'm scared I'm gonna lose him the thought scares me and makes me cry I love him I wanna clear my head it makes it hard for me to sleep becuz ill dream bout it sometimes I had one encounter and now its affecting my relationship becuz I'm scared ill turn bi or gay I have no problem with bi/gays/lesbians but its not for me what do I do I'm really scared I'm not sexually attracted to girls when I'm with my bf I get tingly inside I just wanna b happy :( I need help wht do I do
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reader, JujuBearLovesPierre +, writes (22 January 2013):
JujuBearLovesPierre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThnk you soo much no nonsense aidan that helped me alot :)
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (19 January 2013):
Don’t give yourself such a hard time over this. The reality is that most people aren’t 100% anything whether straight or gay. At your age it’s perfectly normal not to know for certain what your sexuality is, or to know what it is but still to have these kind of thoughts even if they are just thoughts you’ve no wish to act upon. But what counts is how you feel for your boyfriend. You don’t want to lose him, you’re in love with him, so the fact that sometimes you might think of another woman as being attractive doesn’t mean you’re going to lose him. Technically it’s no different to you thinking that another boy was good-looking or sexy, it doesn’t mean that thought would break up your relationship. If you’re happy in this relationship and you want it to continue, you’ve got to stop worrying about this. If he wants to be with you too, why would you lose him unless you walked away from the relationship? The odd thought’s not what counts, what counts is what you really want. A thought doesn’t make you gay or bisexual or threaten the relationship. Try to relax and stop worrying.
I wish you all the very best.
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