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writes:hiii :)This is not the hardest question to answer and may sound a bit silly, but your answers make a difference :)I have a boyfriend and i think another guy's actions towards me indicate that he likes me( and my friends think there's a chance he may likes me). The boy knows about my bf but is like this when around me:-teases-pokes me hard- he is louder around me when in a group of friends than when i'm not with him and a group of friends of his- i test him by making my leg touch against his and seeing if he moves away, and he doesn't.-gives lots of eye contactI've caught him staring at me while i was walking and a few seconds afterwards he called me over to ask a question about something we had talked about earlier. Him and i do tease eachother a bit but it's all friendly. I added him on facebook and he saw the invite the next day while near me and said "i'm going to reject you" - which he did. he was laughing aswell at the time.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Yeah, that's nothing. If anything, the next time you see him, pick on him about it.
I think you like this boy. I think you want him to like you. There's no harm in that, but it also isn't fair to your BF.
Think about what you really want before you get to buddy buddy with this boy. There is no harm in being friends, but that flirty behavior can lead to major relationship trouble for you.
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reader, Napalm_Angelripper  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Like dirtball said. He has no regard as to whether or not you have a boyfriend and will flirt with you anyway, especially if you're reinforcing this with flirting back.
To be honest though, I don't see why you're making a big issue out of this. If you really wanted to be with your boyfriend, this would be a non-issue and you'd ditch this guy, avoid him or just be as passive as possible whilst still being friendly, so you don't hurt his feelings or anything.
I think the real question you should ask yourself is, do you really want to be with you bf? Or is this just an ego boost?
Best of luck to ya,
-The Resident Metalhead
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah, it was about the facebook rejection. i think i've taken it too personally! :(
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
"what i don't understand if why he rejected me?!"
What? You mean the FB thing? Or did you ask him out?
If you're referring to the Facebook thing, that was probably a joke, that's why he did it in your presence. If you're talking about something else, then I'll need more details.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks :)
what i don't understand if why he rejected me?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): He may like you.. Or just feel comfortable with you. Guys always act different around their friends who are girls as opposed to guy friends. What you explained describes me and many of my guy friends pretty well, sans the talking louder thing. Very few of them have or have ever had a thing for me.. Many guys are just flirty or teasing with their friends who are girls, a lot of the time just because that's how they are or they think its fun. See if he acts this way around all his friends who are girls. My guy friends are all just very light hearted and many think of me as a sister.And err.. Don't really get the leg touch test. Men really don't care about that kind of thing, so if you don't mind (which you are showing you don't when you don't jerk away on contact) then he sure as hell won't care..I mean your reasoning doesn't make much sense... You think he likes you because he POKES you? Hard? Err. I've known guys who poke all girls they know, it's kinda their thing. And I constantly give eye contact with everybody.. It's polite and respectful. Giving eye contact just means he isn't shy and he respects you and what you're saying.And a lot of guys will sit and think about what they are doing before they do it- aka staring before they call you over. They don't want to look like a foot-in-mouth idiot, so they're just making sure they know what they wanna say before they bother calling you over. It's hesitation.I only say all of this because I have 99% friends who are guys and have my whole life. These signs to me just seem friendly. Nothing he has done suggests any desire for something less than platonic.. I mean I don't know him or you so I can't tell you for sure, but it's not looking like it so far. Just saying.Plus, you have a boyfriend. You shouldn't be worried about other guys.. Just because you get a boyfriend doesn't mean guys suddenly stop liking you all together. Men will still be attracted to you. They always will be, whether you are in a relationship, engaged, married, whatever. And they will act accordingly. Even if he did like you, all of his behavior has been showing a respect for your taken status. I imagine someone like him would be quite a bit more forward if he was actively pursuing you.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
I'd say he likes you. Most guys don't care if you're in a relationship or not. If you're giving him flirty signals back (which you are) then I could totally understand if he thinks you're interested.
So, now the question becomes, what if he does like you? Do you think you prefer him over your BF?
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