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writes:i have been married for 20 years. I had a fling with a married man because I was so bored of my home life. My daughter has left home 2 years ago, although my fling happened when she lived at home. I spent more of my time with my daughter as we done everything together, shopping etc. My fling didn't last very long because the guy was married and thought I was gettin serious.If I had the chance to have another fling I would do it for the sheer excitement of it. I do not want to leave my husband as it is a safety net for me. I hate having sex with him. he is attractive but I do not fancy him. Do this mean I dont love him anymore ?
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 I don't have a lot of sympathy for you. If you don't want to leave your husband, you need to work to bring back whatever it was you saw in him in the first place. Cheating isn't the answer.
Get into counseling. If he won't go, go by yourself. Start treating him the way you want him to treat you. Act like the loving person you want him to be -- or "fake it 'til you make it."
All good relationships require work. All of them. Anyone who thinks it's all "happily ever after" has probably been through several divorces looking for that "perfect" relationship.
Perfect relationships are MADE. You don't luck into them.
If you want to sleep with someone else, leave your husband. He deserves to have someone who loves him, and if you don't want to BE that person he deserves to have a chance to find her. Cut him loose and stop using him as your "safety net."
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reader, all i need +, writes (13 May 2008):
my parents always taught me that love was a choice. when you wake up each moring to your mate you have to choose to love them, it doenst always come naturally. there will come times when that person youve been with for years and the things that you do will get to be same old same old. time has nothing to with it. love doesnt fade unless you let it because love is a choice. :)
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