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writes:My problem is, I had sex with a friend of mine's ex-boyfriend.To make things short, me and the girl grew up together and were best friends, but now are just friends, if not aquaintances. After the guy and I started sleeping together, one day he let me know they were trying to work things out. I feel this is good for them, because they have a child together but I am not sure if she knows we slept together. I know it seems confusing, but when I run into her, I don't know whether to say hello or not, etc. I was thinking to just wave hello, if she doesn't know then she doesn't know, but if she does, to ask her if we can sit down as adults and let me fully explain my situation at the time of us sleeping together (drunkeness and desperation)...
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reader, Vessence  +, writes (27 August 2008):
You didn't break the relationship up, did you? If you didn't then you are not a home wreaker. Remember it takes two. If she can forgive him then why shouldn't she forgive you.
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reader, sweetnsour027 +, writes (26 August 2008):
sweetnsour027 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Would you say I am a bad person? Because I feel horrible. I feel like a homebreaker. Maybe I should just stop thinking about it and let time tell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Hi there
The fact is, it happened. You should not feel guilty. They have broken up. How do you know that both of them have not slept with other people during the breakup. i am glad that they are trying to work things out, but i believe that some things are best left untold.
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reader, Vessence +, writes (25 August 2008):
I have some idea of what you are going through. I slept with a friends ex a few years ago now then they got back together awhile after.
At first I avoided him, as I felt guilty, even though we were both single and it was our choice to sleep together. We each knew the other knew, sometime later we talked abut it all and our friendship has not been the same but we are friends again.
You need to deside if talking to her will help or make it worse, perhaps a simple hi to see if she is angry or not will do and take it from there. As long your relationship is over with him and you are honest.
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