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writes:My ex left me and have a new girlfriend soon. After that we seldom contact each other. He knows I still loves him and still in hurt. I moved house recently and gave him a sms telling him my new addr, and I said I do cherish him as a good friend and will be always nice to hear from him as an old friend when both us are ready. But when he received it, why does he ask me if I want to have dinner with his new girlfriend and him sometime? Of course I don't what to see them showing their love with each other in front of me! its kind of insult to me.Can anyone give me some ideas? Many thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks All! I have sms him that "not really want to now , but for sure it's ok in the future and thanks him for asking" that's it! I think I don't want to see him any more because the hurt is still here. I need time to heal.
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reader, Sophie-Lou-X  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 If he's asked you to have dinner with him and his new girlfriend, it might be his way of telling you that nothing will become of you two again, a kind of 'seal the deal' thing.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 August 2008):
Well you said you "cherish him as a friend."
To him this means either A. You are now ready to be friends if he is or B. You cherish him and want to check if he's still single.
If he thought A then he's asking you out to dinner with his new girl because that is what friends do.
If he thought B then his new girl probably got a little annoyed that an ex was texting in that way so he's telling you that he has a girlfriend and making her feel better by getting you to meet you and see that there is nothing going on.
I really don't think it was an insult, just a misunderstanding. You should send him a polite text back and say that you are not ready yet but hope he is happy. Then go out with your girlfriends to have some fun and distract yourself a bit.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): You can not be friends with your ex until you no longer have those kinds of feelings for him. Have you been hounding him, declaring your love for him ect. I think you should have time away from him. You shouldnt have called him to tell him your new address....not yet anyway. I personally would turn down the offer of him and his new girlfriend. It just might be his way of telling you he has moved on! Ask yourself do you really want to stay friends with him or do you want him back!
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