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writes:This is really hard for me, i know most of the answers i am going to get, but i was seeing this married man for 2 years im 21 he is 35. he has wife with a baby on the way....i am not a heartless person i always felt bad, but circumstances in my life led me to this. i was fragile at the time, hurt and lonely, and he was just bored i guess of his routine life.anyways i am reaaly sad to have ended this because i really fell for this guy, i stopped living my life, dating, etc for him. all i did was wait for his phone call and settle for the little time he gave me...i was a sucker. and recently i got really upset at him and i screamed at him and he hung up, i called him back and i screamed at him back and hung up..stupid huh. well i called him monday and he hung up..i kept calling him and he text me "stop calling me" i just wanted to talk to him and i text him to pick up he text me back with "f*** you" no one has ever spoken to me like that and he has never either, when i saw that i was shocked he cursed me out and said he wanted to do nothing with me anymore. i feel liberated yet hurt because i was so nice to him and for him to treat me like this i gave evrything. he didnt care for my feelings and that hurt, please give me some comfort words:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): There's nothing wrong with the way you feel about all of this. Being depressed after ANY relationship has ended is completely natural. However, this is the time for you to keep your chin up and move on, even though it's easier said than done.
I was dating an older married woman for a while, and her and I exchanged similar texts/phone hang ups when it ended, but I knew she had to deal with her own problems at home. For me to call her husband and disclose her infidelity would have only destroyed what they may have been able to work out together. And, it would have only been done out of anger. Even though it ended and I didn't want it to, I would never want to hurt her.
In the end, I realized that we all have basic animal insticts, which is why we were intimate in the first place. I realized that it was best just to move on with my own life - and brighter horizons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): No one likes being depressed - obviously. It hurts, its painful. It can go on for a long time...
However you can change how long it lasts. I noticed no one else has replied to this which suggests that people are against the fact that you had an affair. Whats done is done. I suggest you have some self-respect and find someone who will love you. Its not totally your fault about the affair. He also had one and should've been mature enough to say no.
You need to get out of this, you don't need to have revenge although, if you want to by all means you can. Does his wife or girlfriend know about the affair however?! Because if they don't, would you want someone else to go through the same amount of pain as what your going through?!
Yes, hes an arsehole, granteed. Eventually his marriage will fall apart. If you want to tell her you can but thats your choice. I'm more concerned about you.
What I suggest you do is seek consuelling if you start getting depressed. This is far easier said than done and to be fair, I wouldn't do it. Ever. But you might need it and if you do seek it then your depression will probably end quicker. If you want to do it on your own, you'll only prolong it.
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reader, tammye17 +, writes (6 August 2008):
tammye17 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Also, i am so angry @ him and hurt that i feel like calling his wife and telling her everything, i know its wrong but he doesnt deserve anything in life....but then i can't help but to talk to him, but my pride is not letting me....i just want to lead a normal happy life i hate being depressed and lonely all the time.
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