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writes:I HAD RECENTLY HAD AN ABORTION LATE AUGUST. I REALLY FEEL DEVESTATED ABOUT WHAT IVE DONE BECAUSE OF MY PARENTS OPINIONS. BUT ME AND MY BOYFRIEND IS TRYING TO CONCEIVE AGAIN THIS MONTH IS IT POSSIBLE TO GET PREGNANT SO SOON?Can you not use caps next time pls xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Firstly why are you wanting to get pregnant after you have just had an abortion? if its to get over the grief of loosing your baby this is not the answer. if you do get pregnant it will not be the baby you lost.
Please think carefully before you do this, is this the answer you looking for, or just a way of helping with your guilt.
Think of the baby not just your feelings.
grieve, talk, cry, and think about the reasons why you want to get pregnant again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Marie Stopes [www.mariestopes.org.au] is a reproductive health facility in Australia that performs abortions & their online FAQ section that deals with your question.
It reads: "It is very important that you are aware you could conceive as early as 2 weeks after your abortion."
If you are feeling guilty about having your abortion, you need to realise that you need to go through that grief process and nothing can undo what's been done. Having a baby now might seem like the easiest way to mask it & it may help you in some regards, but do be sure you're ready first.
I found SafeHaven (www.safehavenministries.com) a really helpful tool after I terminated a pregnancy... yes, it's religious-based, but NON-judgmental -- they're about helping you to heal. They've got links to help for grief (because it IS grief that you're dealing with), they have suggested steps for healing, they suggest writing a letter to your baby (the one you terminated); they've even got a section for men to help them understand (1) what the woman is going through, and (2) how to deal with their own grief as well -- because it does impact on the man too.
Don't make any rash decisions just yet... if you think you've made a mistake, deal with that first before trying for another baby. Get yourself emotionally ready & stable first.
Good luck & happy parenting when it does happen for you!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 September 2007):
 I would wait to have a baby. You need to take care of being torn apart first from your abortion. I would seek out a support group. You need to take more time. After the abortion you can get pregnant fairly quick, but that doesn't mean you are healed enough to cary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): This is awful. How can you have an abortion last month, then this month decide it was a bad idea and try for another baby? You are insane. Get married and grow up first before you bring an innocent baby into this world. Just b/c you feel bad for having an abortion last month doesn't amke it o.k. or made up for by having a baby now. Please do the world a favor and don't do this.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Why are you so suddenly wanting to get pregnant after just having an abortion?
I think you need to consider why you had the abortion in the first place and why you really want a baby now.
Don't rush into anything as this is a life you are talking about.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): You probably can get pregnant again, but the real question is, is it wise? You tell us you had an abortion because your parents would not approve. Has anything changed in their thinking since then?
Besides, are you and your boyfriend planning to marry or live together? Don't forget, it takes a LOT to raise a child from babyhood until he or she goes off to college. You need to think about what you and he together can provide for any child your might have together, and the child's best welfare.
If you want a baby so bad, get married first! Or does the thought of marriage seem something unneccessary or off-putting somehow??
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (10 September 2007):
This is a JOKE right? If not, consult a priest, your soul is broken.
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