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writes:Hi I need help!! I had a party a few days ago and ended up sharing my bed with my mates girlfriend we had a bit of fun. But didn't go all the way and now I feel guilty cos it's my mates girlfriend and its really awkward between me and her what shall i do!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): For some reason, you've decided it's okay to have a fling with your best friend's gf. That's too bad that you made such a poor choice. And now you feel remorse, regret, guilt? Good friendships can be a place where self-centered, meanness can really cut loose, for how you are poorly treating those closest to you. I think you have to ask whatever, motivated you to do this to a good mate? Look in to yourself and make the necessary fixes and learn about respect and honor for others. I am glad you want to take full accountability for your actions in all this...the best way is to take this opportunity to change yourself is to begin by telling him what happened. He needs to know that you, and his gf's are people he can't trust. Put yourself in his shoes..would you want to know? While you are telling him this, apologize and promise you will be a more loyal, giving friend, in the future. He will be hurt and you have to deal with that and your guilt. This little fling is over, so tell him that too. Tell him how sorry you are and that you have learned your lesson. If he can forgive, then just try to be the best friend possible. There's not much recourse for getting rid of the guilt-it will ease up with time. Think of the guilt as a seat-belt for your soul. It's your brain's way of telling you to never, do this again to your mate or anyone else.. It's reminding you that the thrill and fun of being unfaithful is not worth the heartache and hassle of deceiving someone you care about, such as a good friend. Cheating does destroy lives and it is by far, the most selfish act in any relationship. If your friendship survives this, then just concentrate on making the quality friendship with this guy as good as you can and drop this issue. It will be important to remember, not give the incident more power than it deserves, by dredging it up.
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reader, Keria +, writes (1 May 2007):
You should talk to her and make sure everything's fine between the two of you. Let her know you feel awkward, and if you don't want to see her again this way, let her know that, but you still want to be friends. You also need to let her know you care about your best friend, and if you think this would hurt him, you need to agree to keep it to yourselves.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (1 May 2007):
 well at end of day its her thats been unfaithful to her bf not you yeah hes your mate but shes shouldnt of done that in the first place its more her fault than yours. if shes gunna keep it under her hat then i wouldnt worry about it jus leave it be n try jus startin up a normal conversation with her about n e thing jus to get you both talkin to each other again n to get rid of all the tension. but if she does tell her bf then your jus goin to have to wait for the out come and deal with the rocky road ur in for. good luck :)
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