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writes:Life is as crazy and mysterious as one can make it, right? But some stuff are completely out of ours hands. It was that what occured to me around half 2011 when I stayed a weekend at my best mate's place.That morning, I awoke to a very vivid dream since it was the one I had before I actually woke up. As clear as the day, even 'til today I can remember a dark room with myself on a stage with perhaps colors of spotlights. Next to me would be a girl. Red hair. And a guitar resembling the same color. I also remember looking at her but I can't recall her facial features but still I remember blue eyes... vaguely. I told my mate, to which he'd reply: Be careful with that, there's always a chance it meant something for you. Of course, I do believe dreams can predict paticular parts of our life but by the time it happens, you remember you actually dreamed about it before it even occured. Well, in this case I was in for quite a shock. You see, my mate lives in a student apartment; so he's not the only one livin' there. Around October a girl moved in. And, maybe you'd have guessed it: She had red hair. Not as red as in the dream, since in there it was sort of dyed a darker unnatural hue. It's that color mothers in their 40's would pick. Anyway, she seemed nice and I didn't really talk or hear from her besides little bits of pieces from my mate. But one evening, I just randomly added her to my facebook and started going through the loads of photos she had.A talented girl; musician and very good artist. Also used a lot of internet memes to express herself, something I did so that meant we had the same sense of humour. But then, I saw she performed on stage.By now, you must have guessed it. I came across a photo with her sporting the same color of hair I described earlier.And a guitar as red as in my dream. Even the stage looked familiar.Even I'm not a fool to know that this might have meant something. So, I approached her albeit on facebook. And, it was difficult to approach her. I looked like a guy that could've fit into one of those love comedy movies. But eventually I managed to get a good conversation going where we chitchatted and shared interests, she even told me stuff that was very confeditional towards others. I'm a bit bugged about the fact she prefers guys with long hair and a beard. I meet the first requirements... and some other stuff like 'shyness'. But...She trusted/trusts me. And when I met up with her -- in person, since she lives in the same apartment as my mate -- it was a bit awkward cause I didn't really know how to act around her but all in all it was fun. But here's my question: Is this the right thing to do? I don't want to be someone who is chasing after a vivid dream. I still have no clue whether I should do all this or not. It's been ages I've actually met someone I could connect with so well; let alone have such strong feelings for.So... What would you lot do in my situation? Any advice? I'm actually scared to make a move or even try anything.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (23 January 2012):
 Hi, Relax, she's not the Queen of England, or a Princess. She has her insecurites as well as you. We all do. But when we are infatuated with people, we tend to put them on pedestals. They are special in our eyes. Don't be intimidated. Ask her out, make conversation and get to know her. She won't bite. Take it slow and easy. You will be fine. The other thimg is, if you keep holding back, she will think you are not interested, and someone else could come along, then you will wish you had stepped forward. Don't miss your opportunity. Cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys.. Anyone else who can give me just that little... push to actually do anything? I've never actually felt like this before with anyone.
Before I was always able to make a move but, she has this... thing that leaves me unarmed and petrified.
I mean. Just. Wow.
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reader, alphamalesyndrome +, writes (12 January 2012):
If you are attracted to her, make your move. Don't be afraid.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (7 January 2012):
Hi, It appears that she has a valid interest in you. Be yourself and discuss things you both have in common. The friendship could grow. Sometimes we do have visions, but I would now deal with the reality of the situation. Be friendly and kind, let the relationship go where it will. Most of all, have confidence in yourself. Good luck to you.
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