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*inkmaple
writes:I had fGC(female genital cutting) when i was young, i had part of my clitoris removed and the clitoral hood too, that's what my mom told me but when i looked downthere i couldn't find any trace for the clit. let's say that i have no clitrois, does this mean that my sex life is over ?? before even beginnig..my life just sucks.i never let any guy get near me, i have sexual desire but i'm afraid that when i try i won't feel any pleasure and will drive tha guys away. is there any advice that you can give me?? is there anything i can do to make up for my loss?
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reader, Rehabot  +, writes (24 July 2012):
First of all my English is not good. But I will tray my best, than about clitoris is I am the same like u when I was baby b/c of tradition they remove it. I am 32 old and marrid I do enjoy sex very will. But some times when i refused to have sex my husband keep tell me b/c they cut out ur clitoris u lose ur sex intrest but I don't agree with him am ok the way I'm. So don't worry u will be ok as long as if u man is goog how to treat a women u will enjoy ur sex life. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): It's possible that you can have some sort of reconstructive surgery and since many of the clitoral nerves are inside the body, you may still have a lot of feeling there. You may be able to orgasm on your own, maybe you can try masturbating if you haven't yet to see what happens- see if your outer vagina and gspot are sensitive/pleasurable also.
Few women orgasm from intercourse alone since only the lower portion of the vagina has sensation for pleasure and when they do, it is usually from stimulation of the clitoral area in some way during intercourse. But a lot of pleasure sensation from sex is in your brain, so if you still have desire and sensation there is a good possibility you can still have pleasure and even orgasm.
I do see this as a loss and I'm so sorry this happened too, but there is still a good chance that you can have a lot of pleasure from sex so don't lose hope to have a bf and a sex life. Many women who have not experienced what you did still have trouble with orgasm and pleasure. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): You still have your gspot and cervical spot that can be stimulated to enjoy sex, as well as inner nerves that make it pleasurable. I wouldn't say its over. Also the majority of it all stems from your own mind. Enjoy the sensations of touch all over your body. Extend the foreplay. Massages, foot rubs, sucking of toes, kisses to the lower back, nibbles to shoulders. Your whole body is one big nerve ending.
You'll be able to enjoy sex. Just make sure you see a Female doctor to help you with your questions and concerns.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 There are other ways to feel pleasure during sex, many women can orgasm from having their g-spot stimulated. I suggest you visit a doctor to figure out what your options are. I'm really sorry this happened to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): You can't really replace the clitoris OP but there are plenty of nerves in and around the vagina that means sex will still be pleasurable for you. Even if you find yourself unable to orgasm it will still feel pleasurable and the closeness of being with a man you love while having sex with them will still feel great. You could also be the kind of woman who can orgasm from penetration.
Your best bet is to go visit a doctor and ask them for advice on the issue.
Try not to see it as a loss OP, you can't change this and seeing as you weren't sexually active before you had this procedure you're never going to know what difference it would have made to still have one. You will still feel pleasure and the only way you'll know how much pleasure is when you actually start having sex.
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