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30-35,
*insay
writes:Hi, I am in a relationship and have been for about 6 weeks now, but I don't think my boyfriends want to be with me anymore. Last night I went to the pub with my friends and he went with his, but all the time were there he never said a word to me then as he was going he was like 'bye'. He hasn't been texting me as much. It always seems to me who texts him first. Is this a bad sign? I know I should talk to him, but I really like him and don't want to lose him. I texted him earlier today asking what he would like for his birthday, but he still hasnt replied. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): I dont really see solid evidence of him going off of you. I see a young guy that seems to think you two have a realtionship where he gets to do his own thing as well. Which is healthy.
I think he had an relaxing evening and hung with his buds and that was that. He probably was respecting your space and time as well and thus said bye. If you wanted to kiss and hug him then, then you do so.
Its only been 6 weeks and maybe he doesnt know you are an affectionate gal. If you want something you ask of him or you do it. MEN cannot READ OUR Minds.
I didn't know you both came up with a plan to do your best to respond to a text ASAP before 5 minutes?
Is it possible he's busy and will get to your text when he can?
Why this panick mode? Its usually this time that women panick and do crazy stuff like over analyze a situation or even bring on a situation.
If you would like to see him, send him a text saying, you know what would make me happy, seeing you tonight. Is there a way you could swing bye and spend 20 minutes with me, snugglig me and kissing me goodnight? I think I need that. Loving you -your name.
If he says he's busy, does not mean he wouldnt like to do that for you. Just ask him to reschedule when he can. And even then, men like to be told or asked, normally, a few days prior so they can think about it or focus on it more when their to do list clears up. They usually say hey, thats a good idea, I could use a hug too.
So he says he's busy means he's busy. He's what 18-21 -he is still learning about women and dating so don't expect him to just know what to do. Unfortuantely us women have to 'train' a guy but it only works if we are honest, speak up, and even then, don't read into something.
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reader, TheChupaChump +, writes (7 January 2012):
 Call him and ask to meet up and talk to him about how you feel. If he seems distant, then its probably best to go solo? Good Luck xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): A six week relationship is not an established one. It sounds as if things are moving on. It may be that you have put more into this than him. If he doesn't reply to your texts in the next few days then it is over. So if you can play it calm and dignified. It will be easier in the long run.
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