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*ellybeans20009
writes:I got rejected by this guy that showed interest in me. After I met with him for our date, I couldn't eat or sleep normally for a week because I was that into him.He said he just wanted to be friends. I'm still hurt and I don't know how to get over it. I keep asking myself am I not good enough, is he scared of me?, is he not over his ex? I don't know how to get over this as this is the most I've ever felt for a guy before.I don't want to become a bitter person and shut myself off from the world, but that is something that's pretty difficult to ignore right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): I tend to do the same thing when i get rejected. And we both know that nothing comes of it and it just ends up hinder us in the end. What i've found to be the best remedy is a girls night. I could not live without my girls nights. And then, you just get back out there. There is ALWAYS someone else. Good luck!
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 Hi Hunny
I no how your feeling rejection of any kind can hurt so much, What you dont need to be thinking about right now is the hundred questions you are asking yourself everyday as sweetheart it may not be one of them..The reasons for why he just wanted to be friends could be and are probably nothing to do with how lovely you are but how confussed he may be feeling at this moment.
I no how difficult you are finding getting on with life at this moment and how stuck you can feel. The best way to go forward in this is to start doing something that you love..Even if you really dont feel like it! Get back to normal slowly, Make your life nice and busy and slowly but surely you will start to think of other things and your mind wont be full of these awfull questions you are asking yourself...Our mind can play horrible tricks on us when something like this happens and most of what you are thinking is really not true..You have said the important thing and done a important thing already..You have written to ask for help and you have said you dont want to become a bitter person..So you are strong enough to realise what you dont want in your life and strong to ask for help hunny...And its his loss at the end of the day and you are free to get the man that really deserves you..If you need someone to talk to hunny please message me anytime PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): If I could offer the following analogy:
You go to a restaurant because you like the look of the menu. You order your steak and when it arrives at the table it smells and looks absolutely superb. However, the vegetables are undercooked and the steak is as tough as an old boot. You complain about it but you haven't got the stomach for another portion. You don't bother going to that restaurant again, but it doesn't mean you stop eating altogether.
Time is a good healer and you'll get over it. Have a night out with the girls and get out socialising again. Not every steak is as tough as an old boot, and there's plenty to choose from.
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