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writes:Last night I got naughty with my ex on webcam. My boyfriend was asleep in the other room at the time and I feel really bad about it but I don't want to stop. I don't want to be a lying cheat but I just can't help myself. My ex wants to be with me again and he told me this about three months ago and since then our relationship has blossomed.Now we're thinking of having sex but I can't leave my boyfriend for my ex. Is it wrong to want the best of both worlds???I'm sure it is. help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): Why can't you have both? I say be honest with both of them and let god sort it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Wanting to do something and actually doing it are totally different things.
I say stop worrying about what you think you should or should not WANT, and start worrying about what you should or should not DO. Becuase you can help it. You can "help" doing anything if you choose to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): i know how you feel, ive been torn between by boyf and another guy before. but the thing is that you need to remember that he is your ex for a reason, and its just sex, wat you have with your boyf is more than that. but are you in love with your boyf?? you might need to think about that because if you dont love him then you need to be fair to him and leave. you think that you wanna be with this ex cos its new again, and all the good memories are coming back, not the bad ones and the reasons you broke up. i hope this helps somewhat, email me if you want more help
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 There's a reason that he's your ex. Remember that reason.
If you find yourself completly unable to control yourself between two men, maybe you should stay single because it seems obvious that you arn't going to be committed.
Can you imagine how you'd feel if you found out how your boyfriend had been "naughty" over to an ex on webcam??? While he slept?! If you think about how that could feel, you'll understand that you need to keep away from your ex.
If you really love your boyfriend, you'll know this is wrong. But tbh, if you were sorry for what you'd done, you wouldn't want to do it again would you?
I think you need to think of the outcome of this... Once you and your ex get back together and have had sex the passion will be gone because it will no longer be "naughty" because you're not hiding it behind someone's back. I'm not saying this is the truth, but it appears to me that he's most likely after only one thing. And if you decide to sleep with this guy behind your bf's back... what are you gonna do then? What are you gonna do if your ex just throws you away after using you?? Run back to your boyfriend?
Rule number one with ex's - no sex with the ex. You will get feelings that you had a long time ago and it will mess you up.
If you are REALLY confused about this whole situation, you need to tell both men that you need a time out and then give yourself time to decide what you want because it's not really fair if you're trying both out at once is it?
I don't want to sound harsh, I really REALLY don't but if you feel you can't be trusted, you need to treat these guys with respect -take a break and work out what you want :
- to be single and play the field
- Be with your boyfriend
- Be with your ex
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Yes it is wrong. How would yu feel if someone you loved did that to you...
You are not being fair to your boyfriend. He deserves better than someone who would lie and cheat on him. If you want to try again with your ex you should just let your boyfriend go.
Just make sure you are making the right choice. You could be mistaken in this thing with your ex. It could just be a bit of fun and when the fun is over you may regret it!!
You should do the right thing. Choose!!!!
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reader, kit_e_kat +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Well you may want both but you can't have it. Its not fair on either of them (your ex and bf). You have to think about who you really want. He's your ex so why did you break up in the first place ie is he actually worth it? do you really still want him or is it just the fact that he still likes you (wants you)and that is appealing? Is this webcam business just aluring because it is forbidden? Who says if you got back with your ex things would still be as exciting as they are now? Then think about your boyfriend, how much does he really mean to you? what are his good points and bad? and is it worth dumping this man for your ex? if there are any problems between you two can you work them out by talking, what is making you want to still be with your ex? It's natural to want to be with the familiar but you'll never know what else there could be. Is it really that big a descision? ex or boyfriend picture yourself or your life with either which one is more appealing? then make your mind up it's not right to have both and you know that, hope i helped x x x
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