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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months, a week ago i got very drunk and ended up going back to stay at his. The next morning my boyfriend told me we had had sex. i do not remember this at all and i felt he had took advantage of me as this was my first time and we hadnt done anything brfore that night . Would you say this was taking advantage or not ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): the same happened to me last night but i only remember i clip of what happened.i know how you feel, it was my first time too. you may have took advantage of. but if you dont feel anything down there i really doubt that anything happened between you and your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): i did the same thing as you. but i have to agree with other people. you would definitely feel it. if you were so drunk you cant remember you probably either didn't do it (in which case your boyfriend is lying and taking advantage of you)or if you really did do it (there would be evidence and pain) you probably didn't care either way and just decided to let him go with it. but if he wasn't drunk or not as drunk as you i would say he took advantage of you
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reader, Samilylove  +, writes (9 October 2008):
I recently lost my virginity.
Drunk or not drunk hun, you wouldn't have to be told you did it to know.
You'd be feeling it before he even had to tell you.
As for being taken advantage, i would wait a while to drink.
It says you're 13-15. Just dont. There's no need sweetheart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): I disagree with the other posts. If you can't remember then how can you could you possibly acuse him of taking advantage of you. It is a very damaging thing to acuse someone of. Did you ever consider that you were both really drunk, both really willing? If you don't want such dilemas then don't get so drunk. I wouldn't blame your bf for something you can't remember.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): He's lying.
If you was a virgin, and you had sex with him, you would definitely know. Not only would you be sore, but there would be other evidence too. Your boyfriend is trying to frighten you. You should never get so drunk that you can't remember what you did. He's trying to show you that you were so drunk that you let yourself get vulnerable and you could easily have been raped.
Stop drinking you are too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): if he was sober then maybe he did. again, like previous person said, depends wot u said. however if he was as drunk as u then no. dont get urself in that state again, it may seem like a good idea at the time but the next morning nvr good. get pregnancy test and go get checked out jst incase. xx geo xx
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reader, Jack_McVeigh  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Ok darling. First of all do you trust this guy? I mean if you trust him then you really have no reason to doubt what he said. Secondly, if you got so heavily drunk, would you have used protection. If you cant remember this, then ask this guy asap. let me kno hwo it goes.x Jack P McVeigh
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 October 2008):
It could have been him taking advantage but at the same time you don't know that you could have been telling him that you really wanted to do it.
Yes he should have known better than to trust your judgement when you are that drunk but he's only a boy.
This is one of the reasons that you aren't supposed to drink till you are 18.
I think you should treat that night as though it didn't happen and concentrate on working up to losing your real virginity with someone you love and trust.
Check that your boyfriend DEFINITELY used a condom and then move on from this.
Don't get drunk like that again.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Maybe this will be a warning as to the dangers of drinking too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): you shouldnt really be getting drunk as you are only 13-15 so it says, and even if you dont remember it you would sure feel it in the morning as it is sore when you lose your virginitie and you would of spotted things like a little blood in your knickers maybe, i think hes just saying it to look like a big man to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): It would be if he had, but I feel sure you'd know if he did!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): If you did have sex, then yes I would say he took advtantage. But he could be winding you up. If you feel unhappy because of either of these two, give him a wide berth. You are still very young and sex is much better in a loving relationship where both people are happy.
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