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writes:I am married since 1976, my age was 16 and my wife 9 months older than me. We have matured daughters 28 and 24 aging one is married second is likely to be married in a few months and one son 21. My wife does not allow me to talk my parents, brothers, she only allows me before her as she feels a sense of conspiracy against her while I am very honest to her but she does not trust it.Moreover she does not have any emotional attachment to my parents while she likes her parents and one nephew very much, I do not like this attitude she has, she wants me to do whatever she likes irrespective of my unlikings. She never forgets the words which I speak to her in anger and takes a revenge by not allowing me 2 touch her physically 4 many months. Ultimately I have 2 surrender before her as I am afraid she might end her life or to leave me permanently and I do not want to maline my social image as I have to establish my children socially.Apart from this she has some good qualities like she never speaks a lie, honest in dealings unshakeable belief in god, she never back bites, both of us are of 48+ I always wish to have sex with her but she never thinks of it, she is frigid ,very passive and does not like to listen about sex, she thinks me very selfish for sex .
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008):
SHOOT HER!
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reader, chandra Mcmillan  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 Hun as a woman speaking about another woman your wife sounds like she is a controle freak. You have as much right to speak to your family as she has to speak with her own.when you became husband and wife you married the families as much as the both of you.surely your daughters wish to speak with their grandparents,
You sound quit unhappy with the relationship and her using taking her own life shows she needs help.
I would speak with your gp about any advice or help on her behaviour and tell her you wish to speak with your family and that she is welcome to go with you to show there is no conspiracy.
I hope this helps
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Hello
You may not like what i say, but your wife has an unshakable belief in God, then why does she act ungodly?
I am sure she has many great qualities but maybe you are at fault here by ALLOWING her to dictate to who you can speak too. Just tell her to butt out you can speak to who ever you want. Then tell her if she don't want a jump you will go and get a scarlet woman who does, and you will be selfish with her instead. You are too soft and have brought this on yourself by been a willing wimp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): hii dont know whether my advice will be of any help..but i will try..my mum and dad sound like both of you-my mum does not like my dad talking to his family-because she feels they will turn my dad against her. My dads family have never been very welcoming to my mom-and on previous occasions-my dads family have only acknowledged my dad and ignored his children and wife.at the moment-my dads family are trying to bribe him into giving away land in india- my mum has asked my dad not to see them unless he really has too.maybe youre family should make the effort with your wife too? my mum feels saddend by the fact that my dads family dont acknowledge her..and maybe thats how your wife feels too?i understand that it must be very hard for you- as normally men dont speak about their wifes controlling them.i think..you should romance her abit..take her out for dinner..buy her flowers..you are never too old for that and plus every woman loves flowers.sit her down and speak to her...and tell her that at times you feel very unhappy..tell her that you love her and your children but you miss your childhood as well.have you spoken to your children about this? they are adults..i am 23 and if my dad told me that he wanted to see my gran i would support him..but i would also value my moms feelings as well.really speak to your wife..and if you can...speak to your family and ask them to make the effort with youre wife. maybe you should tell your parents or brothers or sisters (someone you trust) about how you feel? do not let your wife torment you-she can not threaten you with her life..tell her that you love her..and when she threatens you it is unfair...also tell her she is responsible for her own actions. it seems to me that she is trying to create fear in you...but maybe she is scared of something her self? have your family ever done anything bad to her?i wish you all the best.love and god blessfriend xx
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