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writes:Hello dear cupiders have a problem and would really want some advice.Last friday, the curious me got the better of myself so I tried to go to some online gay chat sites. There I met tons of people ranging from oldies to guys who wants to do people. Scary for a first timer. BTW, I talked to most of them via Skype.Well anyways, Last Saturday, I met this one guy,(among all the other insignificant) that I was attracted to. Although our first online meeting a 'w*nking' session, (oh no i didn't join him, i don't have cam with me, only mic) he really went on talking about me , about him and stuff. And this friendship(as I call it) kind of for me, grew and then he'd share about his work and everything. Then he asked if I could send him a picture then, I did, but I was hesitant at first since he hasn't send one yet(one with his clothes on) but I just sent my pic anyway. Then today, Monday, he was online again then we chatted a little. Saying he misses me and he misses my voice and how much he wanted to be with me and cuddle me. And that I'm the perfect bf for me and the list of caramel-coated words came. This time, we weren't doing anything nasty, it was just the normal talking, then asking about work, and stuff. Then after 20 minutes, he puts down the call. Then after a minute, I was deleted from his contacts.It was such a shocker for me, I didn't know what to do. I tried to call him again but nothing answers. He didn't block me though cuz I can still see his acc. But I do believe he has deleted me, 'does not share contacts with you' kinda things shows. What do I do now? I feel such a loser. I feel like I've given in too fast. This was my first time ever doing stuff like this. So I kind of became attached too fast, and had grew on a liking of him. See, less than 72 hours of knowing each other and I'm feeling something for him. Well now, he's deleted me and I don't know what to do next. Should I ask why he did it, when in fact it seems as if things were going so well? How do I make myself feel better after all that's happened. I feel such a sl*t doing those things with him and at the end he'd just delete me. Please help, I do not know what to do, how to react, and how to pace myself back to normal. SOS! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011): Don't become another 'on-line' abuser. Leave him be--there's no need to get in touch with him--you've already found out he's a flake. Only cowards try to get even over the internet. He already knows he's a loser and that you're a
genuine person with honest values. Keep it that way.
Get away from your computer and find an actual human being to share your life with.
All the best.
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reader, aaringurl +, writes (10 August 2011):
aaringurl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. I really appreciate your advices. I'm now learning to leave it behind. The somewhat disturbing pain is somehow coming to an ease. Well, at least I'm managing right?And thanks, I won't chase him anymore. I'll just let him realize what kind of a jerk he really was and let's put it at that. I'm kind of blessed to be able to experience such turmoil so that for the next time, it won't be as bad.And plus, I've realized after what had happened that, Online searching for love isn't good enough unless you know the person in real life. Thanks again guys for your wondrous efforts. ^.^
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Well... hate to tell you this... but this sort of thing happens all the time.
You never know whether it's something that you said/did or some situation changed on his end. Perhaps he is cheating on his boy-friend and got caught chatting with your, or something like that.
Just chalk it up to him being a total jerk and leave it at that. Even if you do try to contact him it's most likely that he'll never respond given the abrupt disconnection.
Don't give up hope though. There's someone out there for you... and the most likely place of meeting someone is on-line, or at a bar. The BEST way of meeting someone though is through (gay) friends.
Good Luck.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry this happened to you, specially when it was your first time experience....
Its just plain rude!!!!! Rather you like, wants to be friends, or whatever, its just rude!!! Immature..
If you have any way to contact him, send him a nice, polite, short message asking him why he deleted you without any explanation?
If he replys, which I wouldn't be counting on, showing the amount of character), but if he answers you, don't reply and just move on... Be happy you know this guy only 72 hrs... You don't need friends like that in your life...
Just remember next time that you cannot trust people online. You never know who you are really talking to etc... I am sure many people make friends online, but always remember its 50/50...
Good luck!
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