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writes:Let me explain what happened. He wanted me to meet him at a restaurant near by because a couple of co-workers retired that day. He wanted to have a couple drinks, I said okay cool, I'll meet you there. Well, I get there and we sit at the bar while his coworkers sat on the other side of the restaurant. He's looking over where everyone was and I'm thinking we were gonna go over where they were but we didn't. He said he didn't want everyone to know who he was close to meaning me. I'm like wth!!! Why did he ask me to come then? I'm thinking this. I felt uncomfortable then and wanted to leave by that time. He knew I was bothered cause he continued to ask me about it. Well as we walked out to my car a female walked in and he said he stopped talking to her because she talked to much but later on he told me that they used to be involved. I felt like **********. My thinking now is really all over the place. I'm like ******** you walked me to my car and you went back in there knowing she was there. I was pissed!!! I felt like when he saw her he shoulda asked me to stay or shoulda left!!! But instead, he stayed. I asked him later if those people were not his friends, why did he even go???!!! Now let me say this, I've been to a dinner before with him and coworkers so I didn't understand why this time was so different, until I found out that there was an old flame there. He text me after I left and said I'm sorry bae, I need you to understand. I'm like wtf is to understand!!!! That crap looked real messed up!!! I told him there was nothing to talk about but as the evening went on, I was getting more angry. I called him and we argued and he hung up me, I called back several times and he sent me to voicemail. I text him and said we needed to have a heart to heart talk about our future cause I don't wanna go on like this. That's when the silent treatment began. He got all extra mad like this was my fault when I know it clearly wasn't. Had the roles been reversed, he would've acted a stone fool!!!! Now here I am today thinking and wondering if this relationship is even worth it. He has a lot if double standards and its getting on my ******** nerves. I give and give because I love him, but he's wearing me down....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 January 2013):
 It sounds like the people who should not know about you or notice your presence weren't the couple of co-workers , but the new girl who came in later. She's the one to whom he wants to look single, or unaccompanied at least.
Maybe he invited you to this dinner before knowing she was coming, or not sure if she was coming...
Fishy fishy fishy.
And his reaction anyway is very questionable, It's not as much a silent treatment , as a " my way or the highway " kind of thing. He does not want to give you the time, the right or the chance to question or criticize his actions, as you are reasonably inclined to do.
Probably this is not a relationship that should be continued.
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reader, Misdeeds +, writes (5 January 2013):
Misdeeds is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, he claimed nothing was going on but I feel differently about it. He hasn't contacted me since Wednesday, I'm always chasing after him, but not this time. I feel like if you really love and care for someone you don't just cut them off like that. It's too easy for him to walk away from me. It hurts but I'll have to keep going...
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