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writes:Hi everyone,My boyfriend of 18 months has gone abroad for three weeks on a business trip. I get very upset when he leaves usually and he is aware of this. This time in order to stop me getting upset we have been talking everyday. I call him because I have an international calling card. We have been speaking for about an hour evryday and tbh I'm getting a little bored! I miss missing him if that makes sense. I'm also telling him EVERYTHING about my day just to make conversation including conversations with work colleagues about relationships etc, which I would not usually do. I'm in a bit of a pickle because I feel obliged to call each night and I don't want to upset him by suddenly not calling.What can I do? And what topics is it ok and not ok to discuss with a boyfriend, e.g. colleagues relationship problems? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Okay, so you get super upset when he's gone. So he tries to fix it, and now you're still not happy! I'm not calling you a whiner, in fact I know exactly what you're referring to. You have a little bit of the "grass is greener" complex.
My fella is military, and we're both from opposite sides of the country. So that has meant a lot of missing each other. And having that space to miss each other is really important in building our relationship and making it stronger.
Maybe one night you can just send him a text, "hey, I hope you had a great day, I did too. I'm going to relax and go to bed. I miss you tons!! Talk to you tomorrow?". Or, just talk to him! Say hey - I miss missing you. Talk to you the day after tomorrow?
It should be okay to talk about anything with your fella. But, it is always kind of boring hearing stories about people you don't know and their drama. So out of consideration for his attention span, maybe I'd choose topics more relevant to you and your life!! Good luck, sweet!
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reader, Nime +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I've been in a LDR for 17 months (we went to different grad schools out of college) and we've long since dropped the long, forced conversations. Instead when we're both at the computer we keep Skype open so we can chat now and then and hear and see what the other is doing. We also watch movies and shows together, play games together, etc., all with Skype open. It's a lot better than having a long conversation once a day, because with the more relaxed Skype approach, it feels like the other person is in the same room with you, you just can't touch him. :(
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reader, corbandallas  +, writes (14 October 2010):
This doesn't seem to be a big issue to me. I went away once for a couple of weeks while I was seeing someone. It was very early on. She thought I was going to lose interest so I wrote her emails every day, to the point were I was getting pretty sick of doing it. She would text me every day to tell me she missed me and how much she liked my emails etc. If your boyfriend is anything like me maybe he is getting tired of the daily phone calls as well?
I would just tell him now that you don't feel the need to talk everyday anymore. I'm not sure how he is going to react. Maybe it's best to talk to him when he gets home to let him know, for the next time he goes away on business.
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