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writes:I get so attached to guys. If I have a drunken kiss, or even just a nice conversation or flirt with a guy, I immediatyly start liking them. I really hate it.For example, I met a really nice on Friday night, he was obviously interested in me, and I was interested in him too. I was pretty drunk, and he was too. He told he would add me on FaceBook and stuff. I waited a few days, checking my FaceBook and there was so Invite, so I just decided to add him.Which is fine. But I keep thinking about him. Making up conversations we would have. And I keep checking my FaceBook to see if he's online.Obbsessing.I seem to do this A LOT. Help me?! Is this normal? How can I stop?
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reader, raiders  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Take it easy you can't obsessed over guys learned to read signs. There is a difference when a guy is just being nice and polite, to a guy wanting to make you his girlfriend. If you show this obsession to a guy they might label you as clingy person, future stalker or see themselves being the main character in a sequel to Fatal Attraction. Be careful and don't obsessed with guys.
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reader, ladyjaye +, writes (28 April 2010):
 you need to calm down!! acting like this is only going to scare guys away!! you know your problem so actively force yourself not to... its hard i know but appearing as if you are not particularly bothered will make guys want you... maybe its based on the fear that they will reject you, you give them too much. trying to please them so they want you... dont see it as a loss if he doesnt contact you you will find someone else if he doesnt want you. you are young and with experience this behaviour will stop in your life you are going to meet a lot of guys through out your life so dont worry if not every guy is the one thats going to marry you! gud luk!!
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reader, MissADC81 +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I think its pretty normal!(At least for me!) When I was your age, I used to be just the same and I am still a bit like that!
I think to stop it, try to put your mind into something else...perhaps join a club or something! So if you busy doing other things you enjoy doing, you are less likely to spend time thinking about guys! Therefore you won't get too attached!
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (28 April 2010):
 DAAAAMN.HAha sorry this caused me to laugh.
its ok girls are crazy. whenever i meet a guy i like i immediately think of how our future can work out.
its cool unless YOU DONT MAKE IT OBVIOUS TO HIM.
adding him was wrong. if a guy says he'll do something let him do it and if he doesn't just leave it at that.
the key to ur problem is having options. Talk to guys online so when u wanna obsess over a real life guy u will think of the online person and obsess less.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 it is normal. You are still young and have raging hormones, and when you are in that state, it is very easy to fall 'in love' with guys within about an hour.
You'll probably grow out of it, but you can enjoy little crushes while they last :)
good luck
xx
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