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writes:Searched through the site to find a similar situation but couldnt find one! Recently, I've met a girl and we are getting on unbelievably well. We have so much in common and have talked and talked for hours. We make each other smile, cheer each other up when down and agree we enjoy each others company very much. On top of all that she is beautiful too. She has told me I would make a great boyfriend. Great eh? Well, it would be if she didnt have a boyfriend. They've been together a while but have drifted apart and had a few issues. She talks about her guy to me and I try to remain unbiased, I don't want to be the reason they break up. I fully respect that she isnt single and to be realistic about the whole deal, I'm genuinely happy just to remain good buddies with her as she is so dam cool. I guess my question is this; How should I play it? I dont think I'd be so concerned if I knew my feelings were not mirroring what she feels. I know this is getting to her as well. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): im in the same situation. The girl i like told me that i would make a great boyfriend the thing is she was actually single at the time. now she is telling me that she has a boyfriend i no she is still interested in me. my advice would be to just be friends with her try not to show u are interested to much but dont let her think u are not if u get wat i mean. if things are going wrong a bit with her and her current boyfriend just hang in there if she is really interested in u then things will happen and u will end up with her u just gotta hang in there
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): im in the same situation. The girl i like told me that i would make a great boyfriend the thing is she was actually single at the time. now she is telling me that she has a boyfriend i no she is still interested in me. my advice would be to just be friends with her try not to show u are interested to much but dont let her think u are not if u get wat i mean. if things are going wrong a bit with her and her current boyfriend just hang in there if she is really interested in u then things will happen and u will end up with her u just gotta hang in there
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA big thankyou for the answers - especially Dr. John for the male point-of-view! I was and am doing things exactly as John says, its very difficult, especially now we have talked more about the situation. We are soulmates, and I know now we are going to know each other for life. She is not planning on leaving her boyfriend any time soon, I think she feels obliged to stay, but Im here for her whatever happens. Thanks again for reassuring me that what Im doing is the right thing...........
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (15 February 2007):
 Be patient, if it does not work out with her boyfriend there is still hope.
She clearly likes you but cannot commit because she probably does not want to hurt her boyfriend.
If you really like her, wait and see what happens.
Meanwhile, get to know each other better as friends, either way this is not wasted.
Does she know how you really feel?
Good luck
Angel of Love
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 I agree with Dr. John. Unless, she is giving signs that's she's really into her current b/f...I say just being yourself will get her to like you even more. You sound like a great catch!! Good Luck.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (14 February 2007):
 I was in exactly this situation 27 years ago. If I had let it go I would be kicking myself now.
As it stands all I did was to be a perfect gentlman with her and show her what I had to offer as opposed to the guy she had been with for the past six years.
She eventually left him and now we have a 26 year old son and a 22 year old daughter and have been happily married for the last 27 years as of the 20th of next month.
How do you think YOU should play it? ;-) Doc.
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