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writes:Basically , I'm having sex with a cop. I thought it was going to be a one time thing when we met butt it wasn't, and now I'm head over heals for the guy.... I'm 1, 18 in a month and a half. he thinks I'm 19. I plan to tell him when I do turn 18 butt I'm not sure how to and what to say, also idk if I should tell him how I feel about him. I already know how much he can get into butt theres basically no chance of anybody finding out about us . I just want help on telling him part. Reply to this Question
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reader, sugarcandy +, writes (9 November 2010):
You already asked this question.
And for everyone who isn't aware - the cop is 26.
You need to check your state laws for age of consent - it's a pretty serious deal, if you are considered a minor he's just committed statutory rape.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 The longer you leave it before telling him your real age- the less chance there is of him staying with you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 At least you're not lying about being underage. You are of age of legal consent in your state?? In the US, it's 16-18 varies per state, although most are 16.
He does deserve to know your actual age. This is casual sex, so it may not change things although if you're underage then he'll be in a world of shit for breaking the law. There's no easy way to go about this, you just need to blurt it out the sooner the better. Be mature and correct your mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): The question really is "How old is he?"
Really, he's a Cop, and you aren't even 21 years old.
That doesn't say much about him.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 November 2010):
 It's really hard to know how to tell someone who has lied from the start how to suddenly become truthful. I think you owe it to him to be honest, and it would make sense just to tell him, as nicely and firmly as possible, that you are 17. He's going to figure it out eventually anyway, and if you think this could be a long term relationship, him finding out sooner is preferable to him finding out later.
If you're old enough to be dating a cop, you are old enough to tell the truth, aren't you? Time to put on your big girl panties and woman up. Tell him the truth. Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 So you want to turn this clandestine affair into something real. First you have to make sure he's single and is interested in a relationship. Start with light conversations. There is no point in starting a relationship if you can't even talk to each other about daily stuff. You can move on to deeper subjects later. Falling in love after sex is a natural thing. After a month and a half it would no longer be a crazy situation. A cop is just another guy making a living with a handsome uniform. Use that time to determine if you really want a relationship because it would bring you both happiness, and not let your hormones dictate what you should do without thinking thoroughly.
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