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writes:I am dating a man in scotland who is 19 years older than me, he knows I love him, but people at work take the mick out of me cause I'm 24 and he is 42, what should I do?
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reader, PHOBIA MAN +, writes (12 January 2009):
why don't you introduce him to them, then it's harder for them to poke fun at someone who they have come face to face with.'I'm 42 and i would charm the pants off of them to the point where they would think "you lucky bastard"
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reader, Fee-Fee +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Tell them it is annoying you and ask in all seriousness what their problem is!Are these people your friends outside of work? Is it any of their business who you date? If it is a large proportion of the people you work with, I suggest keeping any senior management out of it - for what they probably see as a bit of fun or a wind up, it's not really worth pissing off your entire office, or even getting people on disciplinary ...It might just be that they see it as funny, and haven't realised you are genuinely upset by it.I agree with Icelordess here - smile politely, tell them the joke is wearing thin and you would appreciate an end to it.Fee
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reader, sweet pea23 +, writes (12 January 2009):
My partner is 35 and I am 23 when we got together 2 years ago some of my family were a bit funny about it now they adore him and any way i never cared what they thought and neither should you. Why throw your love away over some stupid comments, you're both adults and can do what you like. If it gets bad could you not talk to some one senior about it or tell them youd rather they stopped making offensive comments.or you could try and retaliate with a smart comment back, like the others said unless you trust someone try not to tell them to much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): I'm sorry....but I've been in a similar situation, and I am really really sick of people giving wierd looks and saying it is weird and will never work out, and I would like to say, don't pay attention to them at all, and by all means, tell them to go to hell, because if you know he loves you, if it's RIGHT FOR YOU, then no one else's opinion matters. Period.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 If they are taking the mick out of you at work because of an age gap between your boyfriend and you that would constitute mobbing and is totally unprofessional!. You should tell them that you do not want to discuss your private life with them and what they are doing constitutes mobbing plus it is not professional. You should also point out to them that mobbing damages the work environment and that they should know better.
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