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writes: Hi,I've just gone 20 and had a few relationships but there's one thing that worries me. The thing is, the longest I've ever been in a relationship is a year. Around that time though I start to get bored. I'm not sure if it's the person or if I just fancy a change. Me and my current boyfriend are living together because this time I thought it would be different. He's nothing like my ex's. He's also sweet, kind, loving, generous and very good looking. But again, I can feel myself getting bored.I'm I doing something wrong? Or is it them? Will I always be like this?Please help. It's kinda getting me down.Thanks x
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reader, cherub +, writes (25 December 2006):
 I don't think anyone can second guess how you feel in a relationship,only you can.Like charmed4eva353 said it could be you are very young and wants to live a varied life now so that is fair enough provided you are honest with whoever you are with at the time. Your present bf is a lovely guy and you still want to move on,you are not ready to settle down.Whether you will always be like that or change when you are a little bit older,time will tell.
If you feel what you are doing may be a problem(it does sound like you are possibly sabotaging long term commitment) then you could try to talk it over with a counsellor/psychologist for possibly cognitive behavioural therapy.Please don't think it is something bordering on madness,it is not.There are different ways of looking at an issue,maybe you just need some ideas of how to from them. Is your childhood a happy one? You can talk to them as well about that and I can safely say it is a good idea to talk and you had done the first step by writing on this site.
Good luck.
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reader, charmed4eva353 +, writes (25 December 2006):
 You are perfectly fine. I no some one who is 29 and the longest relationship she been in is 5 months.
Your still quite young and by the sounds of it just fancy a change. It not a wrong thing to do.
Look at it like a pair of shoes. You might wear them a couple of times but get bored so you might by a new pair of shoes to try. Dont worry about it. Its perfectly normal
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